Expert: Julie - 1/13/2010

Question
hey thank u for your help. me & my ex boyfriend had been together for 3 years we been through alot together over the years includin his cornea transplant & i was the only one there with him . yesterday we broke up & he told me he didnt love me anymore that he hasnt felt the same in the past couple months. He said he didnt tell me cuz he didnt want to hurt me. Now his boy is telling me hes devastated because he never wanted to hurt me because he knows how much of a good girlfriend & woman I am & that hes hurting. Idk what to do I love him & I want things to go back to normal. Is it a way to make things work in the future or is that it? we have a vacation w my family in june n hes still going so should i just see what happens then?

Answer
Hey Stephanie,

Since your ex decided he wanted to end things and that was the decision he made, then I'd leave it at that. Theres nothing you can do to change his mind, unless you start pushing him, which would only push him away so I suggest not. The best thing to do is to give him his space and let him figure things out. If he still does love you and misses you then he knows where to contact you..
Just give him some time..either he will realize he does love you and comes back to try to work things out, or he will move on..either way for right now, its best for you to move on..don't hold out for any sort of hope, because thats not healthy either.

Good luck

Julie