Expert: Harry Ax - 1/4/2012

Question
Hi and thank you for taking the time to answer my question.

I have been dating this wonderful guy for the past year and a half. Our relationship is a long distance one and I'm now finding it hard to still feel connected to him as I use to be. We don't speak as often as we did in the beginning of our relationship and I just can't handle the distance anymore. He also insists that I move to his state, but I don't feel comfortable doing that because there isn't much going on in this state. He also has some baggage, well we all do but he has an 8 y/o girl and lives within 5 or 10 mins from his exes house. I just don't know what I would be getting myself into by moving in with him. There's no plans or anything, it's just move here and I guess be happy. I've also met someone who lives closer to me and we have hit it off great. We are just talking but this new guy makes me feel special and he doesn't have any baggage.  Help! I'm so confused on what to do? I really love my BF but I feel less connected with him and the fact that there are no plans just freaks me out. How should I break up with him? I don't want him to hate me.

Answer
Best thing to do is end it and cut all contact. This is the most humane thing to do. Worse thing you can do is string him along. Or even worse break up with him and say you wanna be friends. Wrong!  Be an adult and end it and let him move on. Any deviation from this advice and you're being a selfish bitch.