How to Breakup/Deal With Break Ups/Moving on after breakup


I am 26.

In 2013 my fiancee was killed. It left me devastated and my life spiraled into a dark void of misery and depression. Earlier this year I attempted to move on. I started seeing "RC" exclusively and I don't know if I really fell in love, or if I was just desperate to escape my misery.

Obviously my emotional state was pretty f'ed up, and in the end, RC and I went our separate ways.

It hit me hard, like being stabbed in the chest. I still have not moved on. It has been almost 7 months since I last spoke to or saw RC. And still I think about him. I have not been with another man since in any way. I just want to hear his voice and touch him. I miss him so much.

I am in a lot of emotional pain. Not only do I still grieve for my late fiancee, now I am grieving for RC.

I don't know what to do but I am very miserable.

Do you have any advice?

Hi there,

it seems that you should be speaking to someone of more professional regard. While I can help you with some of the emotional pain that you are experiencing, my best advice is seeking a specialist who can deal with your loss and the pain the grief has been causing you. For the most part you are doing great, and there is not much more you can do then just try and move on and do things that feel foreign and uncomfortable. However, do not get yourself involved in relationships just to feel the void. Get better first, seek help and get back in the dating pool at a much better point in your life emotionally and mentally.

Best of luck,


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