Expert: Julie - 8/30/2006

Question
I am going to try to keep this neutral, but I apologize in advance for the emotion and the novella you are about to read ^_^.

I have been in a dedicated relationship with the man of my dreams since I was 18, now I am 21. he asked me to marry him, I put a career on hold by taking a break from college and going to work so that we could live together. The last few months have been rocky, and we decided to take a break from each other. That was about two weeks ago.

Now I am finding out that he's been lying to me about quite a lot. First, he used the excuse that he was confused, wasn't sure if he really loved me or not, and needed some time off. Now he says that he is not sure that he ever loved me and doesn't think that we will get back together. I could have lived with that, with a lot of tears and sobbing of course, but we agreed to still be friends. Everything seemed to be fine.

Until today when he approached me about some new developments. Turns out that he has been seeing a new girl for about three weeks. I said alright, please don't ever lie to me again, but we're not dating so I will try not to be mad. But now I am more worried than mad - this girl he is dating is the daughter of an older friend. She is not an American citizen, and she is 16. I would like to tell him in a nice way that it's not a good idea to get involved with someone that young, espesially when her family is from Turkey which is a fairly conservative country. But I am afraid that he will take it the wrong way since we just broke up.

I have absolutely no idea how to handle this development. I am so worried that he is going to get into trouble and I don't want to see him get hurt. I need any advice that you can give, please!

Answer
I understand your concern but unfortunatly even if you warn him he most likely won't listen, he'll figure your just being jealous and trying to break them up.

Thing is, he's going to do what he's going to do anyways and if he's going to get hurt, then its something he's going to need to learn on his own.


Good luck..Julie