Expert: Julie - 7/29/2006

Question
1. What is cheating? My girlfriend slept in the same bed with my friend while knowing i would be sleeping outside on a sofa. No matter what i said or done she would not move out of the bed. I've asked her and we started to fight. And she wanted to leave as that. Why would she do that?


2. How can you tell if your ex girlfriend wants to be back with you? Even if she has a new boyfriend. What are the signs to look for?


3. How do you move on with your life after a long relationship? I've tried dating other women, but sometimes i still think about my ex girlfriend. How can i forget her and stay strong?

Answer
Hi Andrew...

You ask what cheating is..usually people percieve cheating to be different things. Some think kissing others is cheating, some don't, it depends on you. I don't know why she would not move from the bed, but it was disrespectful, especially since you are both together and she chooses to sleep in a bed with your friend.

The only way you can tell if your ex wants to be back with you is if she calls you and tells you. Thats it. She might still want to see you, or talk to you, maybe even have sex with you, but it doesn't mean she wants you back. It just means she wants to have her cake and eat it too. Until she says she wants to get back together, don't look for any signs or hope. Its futile.

The only way to move on is most importantly, no contact! I found that everytime my ex and I talk, I get pulled back to square one. Yup, I totally know about the whole dating other people and yup I think of my ex too..thats normal, because you are still greiving...
Its hard to forget your ex, trust me I know..and its a day by day process. As long as you stay away from talking to her, then you will in time you will start to get over her. I wish there was an easy solution, if there was I'd like to know also!! But unfortunatly its one of things that takes time....
Anyways just keep going on and keeping busy, and one day you will have moved on..believe me...

Take care, Julie