Expert: Julie - 8/7/2006

Question
Me and my gf for 2 years ended things a few weeks ago. She broke it off with me but I knew things were not working out and did not want to be in it anyways but I cannot help but feel this intense anger toward her. Our relationship had been on the rocks and my instinct was to walk away but I did not. I know see she was keeping me around until she found a new guy which she has. She cheated a while back and this is why everything went sour. I did love the girl and treated her extremely well. She is 25 and I am 23 and she met some guy in his 30's who is already established and I am just recently done with college and just started my 1st real job. I tried to walk away at times before this but then she would beg and I did not have the heart to leave. Know that she has left I have an intense angry feeling toward her. Our last conversation over the phone got pretty intense and I told her what I thought of her and told her to stay away from me and leave me alone. I basically have this empty feeling now and just really hope nothing works out for her. Is this bad and what can I do to get rid of these feelings and just move on? Thank you.

Answer
Your feelings are completely normal..I totally understand..I went thru this also with an ex, I wanted to break up with him and when I did he found someone new and then I went thru the intense anger stage too, and I hoped nothing would work out for him..
Its normal what you are going thru, so I wouldn't worry about it, but once you get past this anger stage, you will start to feel better..
When I started feeling anger like that I would just go do things to make myself feel better, like work out..get a new outfit, something that made me feel good.
Working out does feel better when you are angry like this, it lets you have a way of letting out all those feelings in a productive way.

Good luck..Julie