Expert: Julie - 8/29/2006

Question
ok, you might need some backround information. Im 17 and im pregnant. When the guy found out he left.for the last 7 months ive been moveing around from place to place b/c my parents kicked me out. well about bout the end of june i moved in w/ a friend of mine and the babys daddys older brother, there not blood brothers or anything like that just really close scence they were both 5 and 6 years old, anyways i wasnt working so he was paying my rent and food and medical stuff and everything, we started sleeping together,and soon after that he said he wanted to take care of me and this baby b/c his brother was stupid not to be with me, so we started dateing, hes 23, money started getting tight and he stoped comeing home at night, it was like he never wanted to be w/ me and when he was he wasnt happy,ive known him scence i was 16 and hes always been there for me no matter what, and he use to be so sweet,but anyways one night he didnt come home i went over to his friends house and i told him he wasnt the guy i fell in love with,that it wasnt working, that he wasnt ready to be a father, hes working 2 jobs and is trying to get a place for himself and w/ me around he couldnt do that, i love him alot, and now he wont even talk to me or look at me,what i want to know is how can i get him 2 A) be friends with me again or B) get over him. im 6 months pregnant so its not like i can go out with my girl friends and go guy looking like i did b4 or smoke or drink or anything to keep my mind off of him, i dont work, i moved out of the apartment and in with the babys grandma, he moved out to live w/ one of his other friends, and i just dont know what to do. hes acting childish and its driving me insane.

Answer
Sounds like he's not ready for the responsibility of having a child around..so he doesn't know how to act except to push you away. I'd leave it at that, don't try to get him back, because that usually ends up futile.
In order to get over someone, you don't need to be going out partying or even dating. you will be having a baby in three months and you'll be totally focused on that. In the meantime you need to start to figure out how you plan on taking care of this baby, where you guys will live if things don't work out where you are now..and do things for yourself that you enjoy, doesn't have to be partying. Go to movies, or get some excersise, plan the babies room, get a part time job, save some money for the baby, they need a lot after they are born..but you know you won't be able to depend on other people for a place to live or support.

Anyways good luck! Julie