Expert: Julie - 7/27/2006

Question
Hi, I ve been dating this girl for over 3 months,and I have fallen for this girl really bad I cant bee with out her. The problem is that I give so much and she gives me very little. I am not a ritch person I actually poor, but I love this girl and I do everything for her. When we go out sometimes I dont have any money but I find the way to please her. In exchange she treats me really bad she cuzes at me puts me down and she tells me I never do anything for her. I dont ask for much I just want to feel loved. I have never had that I had a hard childhood and I am looking for some one to love. I think I am a nice guy I have never cheated on a girl or misstreated her. I always give my self completely in a relationship and I am working really hard to get ahead in life, but nothing has ever been handed to me I have to fight fo everything, she has car becouse her parents gave her one, and she is always telling me that I am good for nothing. There are days when we really get along but I dont know i really feel something for this girl and I am so scared of being alone becouse I dont do well by myself. I always been by myself and I just want some one to love and some one to love me back. I hope you can understand my problem and help me thank you for reading my question God Bless.

Answer
You and your girlfriend need to have a talk with each other about where things stand in your relationship..
You're doing your best with her with what little you have and she still puts you down, you don't need that..Doesn't sound like she has the same feelings for you as you do for her. She sounds really spoiled..and I'm afraid that she'll never be happy or satisfied with what you can give her.

Thing is I know you say you don't do well on your own but you need to learn to do well on your own. Most of us hate being alone but until we learn to be happy on our own, we can't make anyone else happy.
And I know you don't want to hear this but you won't be able to make her happy either unless you get a high paying job and buy her everything she wants...and do you really want to keep someone around just cause you can buy them what they want?
You should have a girl who loves you for who you are, not what you can buy for them. If she can't appreciate you for what you can give her in a relationship, then its her loss..

Good luck..Julie