Expert: Jeanette Castelli, M.S., MBA. - 2/7/2006

Question
I dont think i am mature but well im in college right now and I have been living with my girlfriend for little more than 2 years. We broke up because I guess she had lots of problems with me. But just last week she was still into me or so i thought. Well after the break up 2 days later she found someone she liked and who liked her back. The thing is she is not the type to like someone right after a relationship she is a genuinely nice girl who dont idolize any stars or doesnt think that anybody is hot or anything. I tried to get back with her but she wouldnt give me a chance. After this situation I cant eat or sleep. Everything i eat it just throws it back up, and i barf. I havent ate anything but a fruit for these past 2 days. Every hour seems like days my heart hurts literally like i cant breathe and cant get her off my mind. I am ready to get over her but this is just so painful. Most painful thing i have ever felt in my life. I keep thinking she was the one.

Answer
Danny:

Everything in life happens for us to learn and grow. Unfortunately many big lessons come with pain. There is a way out. Learning to deal with emotional issues in a fast way can help you now and through your life. Take the time NOW to learn about yourself and relationships and you will be avoiding much pain. I recommend going through the book "Extreme Breakup Recovery: Maximum Healing, Minimum Time" as you heal the pain and learn you will be over your ex sooner than you think. If at all your relationship with her is meant to be, it will be, however you will be in a much better situation feeling good and complete.

Take care,

P.S. You can do it!!

Jeanette