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| I am just confused!! | 5/28/2009 |
Q: First, I want to thank you for your work you are doing to help people like me. I think I will write ...
A: Peter, She may be regretting her actions and looking for a second chance. I would be very hesitant ...
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| verbally abusive hubby | 5/27/2009 |
Q: im 21, he's 24. we have a 2 month old baby. we're not married yet.he is a very responsible person. i ...
A: Yes, it definitely sounds to me as though your husband is abusing you. This is not a situation that ...
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| I am just confused!! | 5/27/2009 |
Q: First, I want to thank you for your work you are doing to help people like me. I think I will write ...
A: I think it is very possible that your former girlfriend was too young and immature to settle down ...
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| Should I stay or go? | 5/26/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for four years and we are still very much in love. Three years ago we ...
A: Since you are still very much in love with your boyfriend, I think you should give couples' ...
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| How to deal with unresolved feelings | 5/26/2009 |
Q: My girlfriend "B" (27) and I (29) had a terrible breakup on her birthday two months ago after a ...
A: Yes, these feelings will absolutely subside. Since you already felt as though you were moving on ...
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| I think I made a HUGE mistake breaking up with my girlfriend | 5/25/2009 |
Q: I have been with my girlfriend for going on 4 years in December. We have always been very close and ...
A: I think you both need time to think. It has only been 5 days, and you may just be second-guessing ...
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| Breakup after LTR with dogs. | 2/16/2009 |
Q: My bf and I have dated for 10 years. He is 35 (divorced) and I am 27. Two years ago we bought an ...
A: I am going to side with your family and friends here by saying that I don't think this man is right ...
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| What should I do? | 2/10/2009 |
Q: I was dating a man for 6 months and we recently broke up about 3 weeks ago. He was a nice person, ...
A: First off, let me say that I think you are being too easy on this guy. Lying about things as basic ...
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| Confused | 2/10/2009 |
Q: My bf and I broke up 6 weeks ago..its been tough as we do work together. At first it was a 'timeout' ...
A: He may just be looking for you to stroke his ego and say you miss him too, or he may have decided ...
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| Lonely and homeless | 2/10/2009 |
Q: I'm writing to you because I need support. My live-in bf of little over a year decided to break-up. ...
A: I am sorry to hear about your break-up. Since I don't know all the ins and outs of your previous ...
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| my boyfriends of 2.5 years suddenly broke up with me, and doesn't contact me anymore | 2/7/2009 |
Q: I already submitted this question yesterday. Unfortunately, I gave the wrong email address. I'm ...
A: I didn't see an actual question in your letter, so I'll respond thinking that you just want my ...
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| What is Wrong With Me? | 2/6/2009 |
Q: , I have been seeing this guy for about 3 months now. He's a great guy. Really attentive, ...
A: It sounds to me like you are more in love with the idea of love than with this guy. Otherwise you ...
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| The Break Up | 2/2/2009 |
Q: About a month ago, my boyfriend and I broke up. Well, to be technical, he broke up with me. He was ...
A: What you are going through is very common; it's natural to cling to the past and wish things could ...
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| Post break up dating | 1/7/2009 |
Q: I recently went through a long, painful brake up with my boyfriend of two years. The reason it was ...
A: It definitely sounds like honesty is the best policy here. Keep the first meeting light, but if he ...
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| Adding to-how to move on after 5 year.... | 1/6/2009 |
Q: I just read over my question I had asked and I wanted to clarify some things. Starting out with we ...
A: Yes, I definitely think it is time for you to end this relationship. This guy does not want to be ...
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| Dating Conflict | 11/18/2008 |
Q: I take my girlfriend out on a date when I can. I, like alot of people am not rich and she knows ...
A: Yes, I think you are being used. It's clear that your girlfriend is more interested in what you can ...
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| time and space | 11/8/2008 |
Q: me and my boyfriend have just broke up after two and a half years.I am finding it hard to let go. We ...
A: My general advice regarding break-ups is to make a clean break rather than to try to remain ...
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| Recently broken up with the one | 11/3/2008 |
Q: I am 30 and she is 29. About a month ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months and am trying to ...
A: I think you might be looking at this from the wrong angle. You're telling me that she was "the ...
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| How do I get my life back on track? | 11/1/2008 |
Q: This is an incredibly long, convoluted story, so please bear with me. Thank you for your ...
A: Well, to start off, I have to disagree with you about being "stuck" in this marriage. As a child of ...
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| my problem | 10/26/2008 |
Q: I am writing you because my boyfriend of a year and a half betrayed me with anyother woman. He is ...
A: You are very lucky to be rid of this man. Any guy who punches you, even once, is not right for you. ...
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| end of relationship | 10/9/2008 |
Q: I was involved with a lovely young woman for almost two years. I am 28 she is twenty seven. Our ...
A: Anthony, It could have been a plan, or it could have just been she thought she wanted to be with ...
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| end of relationship | 10/7/2008 |
Q: I was involved with a lovely young woman for almost two years. I am 28 she is twenty seven. Our ...
A: Unfortunately, I do think this woman used you. You did absolutely nothing wrong here, except to ...
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| Giving him a second chance | 9/25/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend (age 22) and I (age 19) were together for four years, and we broke up about 4 months ...
A: I think you are doing the right thing by staying on your own. I can understand why you're finding ...
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| Love Triangle - What happens after she chooses | 9/20/2008 |
Q: I got involved with a woman who ended a two year relationship after meeting me. She still loved him ...
A: I think it would be best to move on from this relationship. This is a woman who either is not ...
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| Relationship Breakup | 9/17/2008 |
Q: I met a man online and we spent a lot of time together, as well as talking on the phone for about 3 ...
A: I think that three weeks of no contact means he has moved on at this point. Contacting him now, ...
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| She wants to take a break | 9/14/2008 |
Q: I have been dating this girl for about 3 months now, though we were never officially ...
A: Unfortunately, I think the only thing you can do here is give her time, knowing full well that she ...
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| Ending a 7 year relationship | 9/2/2008 |
Q: I have been with my partner for 7 years. Due to circumstances, we moved in together straight away. ...
A: I think it probably is time for you to move on, and I don't think it will be as much of a surprise ...
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| We're in love so we broke up | 8/26/2008 |
Q: I have been separated from my wife of 15 years for the last two years. She has been fighting the ...
A: I think you are definitely making the right decision by moving on from your relationship with this ...
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| Followup From Previous Topic | 8/25/2008 |
Q: This is a followup from the previous question and answer. I hope you still remember my situation. My ...
A: I don't think she is trying to be friends on the same level you were before. She probably just ...
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| Should I Give Up hope of getting back together | 8/24/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend and I were in a relationship (of 7 years) where the good times were good, and the bad ...
A: It is hard for me to imagine that your girlfriend will be able to recover emotionally from what you ...
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| Need help | 8/21/2008 |
Q: I have a very complicated situation for you that I hope you can make sense of. I apologize in ...
A: Tyler, Thanks for the details; they helped me make a better decision. Please understand that it is ...
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| Now what do I do? | 8/20/2008 |
Q: I broke up two weeks ago, with a good woman, I'll call her M. We met last Sept online, but since ...
A: P, If you genuinely feel that you won't allow yourself to get sucked back in to a relationship that ...
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| left by phone | 8/16/2008 |
Q: I am a 28 year old female and was dating a 33 year old male. We had been together for 4 years. One ...
A: Wow. What a cowardly and immature way to break up with someone you've been with for four years! ...
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| Now what do I do? | 8/16/2008 |
Q: I broke up two weeks ago, with a good woman, I'll call her M. We met last Sept online, but since ...
A: First of all, I think you are being way too hard on yourself. Recognizing that someone isn't right ...
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| I dont know weather to stay with him or not ? | 8/15/2008 |
Q: i have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. I'm still young only going on 18 and he will ...
A: You need to leave your boyfriend now. He is verbally and emotionally abusing you. There is no ...
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| please help me | 8/14/2008 |
Q: . I'm 20 years old with a 11 1/2 month old beautiful baby boy... I got pregnant when I was 18 and ...
A: You have not done anything wrong at all. Your son's father is abusive and a terrible parent. You ...
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| Painful Break-up | 8/14/2008 |
Q: I am 29 years old and my ex is 33. I was with him for 4 years and it was a pretty good ...
A: As painful as this is, I think you narrowly escaped making a big committment to someone who didn't ...
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| did I make a mistake? Why do I feel so regretful? | 8/11/2008 |
Q: I am nearing my 30s and all my life, i never dated because I was so focused on school. As I got a ...
A: Well, I don't necessarily think that he had a singular motive. Not every foreign person who wants ...
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| Dating Again | 8/10/2008 |
Q: I didn't date for almost 3 years. After a few years of dating, I met a man in July of 2005 that I ...
A: I think you're absolutely right to not want to discuss your past relationships with him; doing that ...
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| Is it over?? | 8/9/2008 |
Q: I'm so confused... everything was really great between us...He was the one that initiated ALL ...
A: I don't think you're overreacting. It does seem like he has chosen a cowardly way to end the ...
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| Breakup | 8/8/2008 |
Q: How do you deal with a breakup that you might have caused by pushing him away? I had dated someone ...
A: You didn't push him away - you made a responsible, intelligent decision to get out of an unhealthy ...
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| Recent Breakup | 8/5/2008 |
Q: I am 23 turning 24 and my now ex is 22 turning 23. We were together for almost 2 yrs (this coming ...
A: Well, I think given the history he has of letting you go and panicking to get you back, it's not ...
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| Followup From Previous Topic | 8/4/2008 |
Q: This is a followup from the previous question and answer. I hope you still remember my situation. My ...
A: Good to hear from you again. Your ex is texting you because she considers you a friend and is ...
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| Help with breakup | 8/3/2008 |
Q: I am a 41yr old lady who has had a relationship with a younger man for over 4 years. He was quite ...
A: Since it has been 5 months and you are still unable to move on, I think it might be best for you to ...
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| I am doubting my trust in my b.f | 8/1/2008 |
Q: I am 18 years old and my boyfriend is 20. We have been dating for 3 years this August. We've been ...
A: I think that what you're experiencing is natural because he will be in a new situation this year. ...
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| should i leave him or stay? im confused | 7/30/2008 |
Q: please i need your candid advice, i have been dating this guy for over three years, we have been ...
A: You need to leave this relationship NOW. He is abusing you physically and emotionally, and it is ...
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| i love her but i left | 7/25/2008 |
Q: I am very confused and was hoping you could help... I am madly in love with my girlfriend, I can see ...
A: This is a sad and difficult situation, and you have my sympathy. Unfortunately, many people with ...
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| I feel the end could be near. | 7/23/2008 |
Q: I'm 21, my girlfriend's 23, and we've been having issues for the past 7 or 8 weeks. We've been ...
A: First, let me thank you for your positive feedback; it means a lot to me. It sounds like overall ...
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| When do you know when to say When? | 7/23/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend, of six years, father has Alzheimer’s and he is dying. He is not expected to make it ...
A: I feel that you should be with him at these events since you have been his partner for the last six ...
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| Stopping an Abusive Relationship | 7/22/2008 |
Q: My daughter, "Jan", and her "boyfriend" "Ken" are both 35 yrs. old. Things were fine until Ken lost ...
A: Don't believe anything he says; he's just trying to scare her because he knows what would really ...
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| Time to move on? | 7/21/2008 |
Q: I have been in a relationship for a little over a year. Going into the relationship, I knew it would ...
A: I think you should forget about this. Anyone who tells you to your face that he's not sure he wants ...
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| I feel the end could be near. | 7/18/2008 |
Q: I'm 21, my girlfriend's 23, and we've been having issues for the past 7 or 8 weeks. We've been ...
A: I think you are being too hard on yourself here. First of all, there is nothing wrong with looking ...
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| advice on husband please | 7/16/2008 |
Q: I'm 26 and have been married to the man who was my first boyfriend for 4 years now. I love him but ...
A: Since you say you have been married for four years and he has been acting this way for "a few ...
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| break up | 7/15/2008 |
Q: I'm 26, and she is 31. It was a 5-year relationship, and we've lived together for 3 years. We were ...
A: You did the right thing by breaking up with her. It wasn't fair to her to keep leading her on, and ...
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| How to Break Up | 7/10/2008 |
Q: I have been living with a guy since November of last year, we have been seeing each other since June ...
A: I think gentle honesty is the key here. Normally, I would tell you to leave out the part about ...
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| Am I being selfish? | 7/7/2008 |
Q: My name is Santhi, 47 yrs old divorcee with 2 daughters age, 27 and 21. I divorced after a 20 yr ...
A: You are not being selfish. Your instincts are telling you that there is something wrong with this ...
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| friendship with the ex.. now that he has a girlfriend | 7/4/2008 |
Q: . my ex Dave and I have been friends for 5 years.. two of which we were dating.. we broke up about 3 ...
A: Sudha, I think you're right to keep your suspicions to yourself and maintain a fair amount of ...
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| friendship with the ex.. now that he has a girlfriend | 7/3/2008 |
Q: . my ex Dave and I have been friends for 5 years.. two of which we were dating.. we broke up about 3 ...
A: Well, I think you're right to be concerned about Dave's girlfriend. She sounds like she has a lot ...
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| acceptance | 7/3/2008 |
Q: i simplyhave one last question. my ex has confirmed that it IS over, and that she doesnt want to ...
A: Sorry to hear that you didn't get the response from her that you hoped for. My first advice would ...
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| How do i get my ex back? | 7/3/2008 |
Q: We have been going out for a year and a month and then broke up one month ago in May because she ...
A: Jeremy, Listen to what she has said to you: "Don't force things and let it come back naturally." ...
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| Followup for John | 7/2/2008 |
Q: Dana! This is a question from your previous follow-up: ...
A: There is a very strong possibility that they were seeing each other during your relationship due to ...
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| heartach | 7/2/2008 |
Q: My GF of 2+ years and I broke up a wk ago, and Im having a VERY rough time. The first 7 months of ...
A: I wish I could give you a more hopeful answer, but I agree with your friends - it's over and you ...
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| How do i get my ex back? | 7/2/2008 |
Q: We have been going out for a year and a month and then broke up one month ago in May because she ...
A: Unfortunately, I think that you have to accept that the relationship is over. She has someone new ...
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| Is there anything left to fix? | 7/2/2008 |
Q: I'm 25, my boyfriend is 35 and we've been together for 5 years. We have been fighting and according ...
A: It sounds to me like the fact that you broke up isn't necessarily a bad thing. After 5 years and no ...
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| What to do | 7/1/2008 |
Q: I had been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a little over a year and a half and last week we ...
A: This sounds like a positive situation with a chance for reconciliation. The fact that she is still ...
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| Hi Again. Flowers or no? | 6/29/2008 |
Q: You gave me advice on what to do in regards to staying away from my ex-girlfriend (contact wise: ...
A: You are doing the right thing by waiting for her to contact you rather than contacting her. She has ...
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| Is there any chance for us - cant imagine meeting anyone like him | 6/28/2008 |
Q: I am a 27 yr. old single woman. I own my own business and have supported myself since graduating ...
A: I apologize for the delay in my response; I have been traveling recently. Unfortunately, I think ...
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| Hi Again. Flowers or no? | 6/27/2008 |
Q: You gave me advice on what to do in regards to staying away from my ex-girlfriend (contact wise: ...
A: John, Sorry to hear about your dad's illness. Given everything you've told me, I would still send ...
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| I think he dumped me but still confused | 6/26/2008 |
Q: I met a man on an internet dating site he is 46 yrs-old and I am 49. We met and it was instant ...
A: I understand your frustration and disappointment over this situation. It sounds to me like Bob has ...
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| considering breaking up | 6/25/2008 |
Q: First and foremost, thank you for taking the time to read this. I have been with my girlfriend ...
A: It sounds to me as though you really want to end this relationship, but that you're staying in it ...
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| How to win her heart back...possibility? or no? | 6/25/2008 |
Q: "Hi Dana! My girlfriend just broke up with me after 6 years of being in a relationship. We are both ...
A: John, Sending the flowers would be nice. However, I would probably limit the card to saying "Good ...
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| Preparing for a break-up | 6/24/2008 |
Q: First off I'd like to thank you for taking the time to read this. I am a 23 year-old female, dating ...
A: I don't know if this is going to lead to a break-up, but something is off with him. You should ...
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| Shoudl I break up? | 6/24/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend and I have had a great relationship until the past 3 months. At first she started ...
A: Well, I assume from your letter that your behavior towards her hasn't changed in the past three ...
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| crazy ex boyfriend won't let it go | 6/23/2008 |
Q: I dated this guy off and on (mostly on) for 8 years. I am 26 and he is 27, we have 3 kids together. ...
A: You and your kids need to leave immediately. You do need to get the police involved, but you also ...
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| How to win her heart back...possibility? or no? | 6/23/2008 |
Q: "Hi Dana! My girlfriend just broke up with me after 6 years of being in a relationship. We are both ...
A: John, Definitely give her her space. It's probably best to wait to talk to her after the exam. As ...
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| break up | 6/23/2008 |
Q: I just turned 33 and he's 40 dating a yr. he did things that made me feel he was cheating (hiding ...
A: Be glad you are rid of this loser. He sounds completely selfish and shallow. He probably was ...
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| How to win her heart back...possibility? or no? | 6/22/2008 |
Q: "Hi Dana! My girlfriend just broke up with me after 6 years of being in a relationship. We are both ...
A: It sounds like your girlfriend is confused about what she wants. First of all, this is a stressful ...
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| Divorce in the making | 6/19/2008 |
Q: My birthday is 8/21/72. I have brown eyes, and hair. I have been with my husband for 19 years. We ...
A: Well, let me first say that you should count yourself lucky that you won't be married to this man ...
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| i left him | 6/16/2008 |
Q: So here is my situation. I was with this one man that was very emotionally abusive for over 10 ...
A: I think you did the right thing by asking him to take a break. It sounds to me like you may have ...
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| How to end it | 6/14/2008 |
Q: I feel bad dumping my problems on my friends so I thought I would give this a try. I have been ...
A: I am glad to hear that you want to break up with your girlfriend. She is not overstressed; she is ...
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| Break-up, not sure how to handle things | 6/12/2008 |
Q: I have a problem I'm hoping you can help me with. I have been with my ex for 3 years up until ...
A: This is a very tough situation. Your ex is young, impressionable, and probably more than a little ...
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| break-up | 6/11/2008 |
Q: I have been dating this guy for a little over 2 years now. We recently just got our own apt or ...
A: There's no need to worry about sounding high maintenance; this guy is an abusive loser and you need ...
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