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How to Breakup/Deal With Break Ups/Questions Answered by Expert Harry Ax
| Subject | Date Asked |
| talking to my ex. . . am i crazy and pathetic? | 5/30/2012 |
| Q: I want to say this to my ex before graduation. I was mad at him before, and I tried to be a little ... A: No..never talk to your ex, simple as that - go no contact until you are COMPLETELY over them Try to ... | |
| breakup | 5/27/2012 |
| Q: life my and my ex date for 14 months. its nine months since we broke up. i go through these cycles ... A: You need to fill your life with things that can make you happy. Take up some new hobbies asap! At ... | |
| He confuses me | 5/24/2012 |
| Q: Dan? I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now, am 24 he is 28. H e is a great person, he is ... A: He's struggling to relate to you as a women. As a women that has sexual needs and other needs too. ... | |
| Good reason for a break up???? | 5/24/2012 |
| Q: I am 23 and my boyfriend is 28. We have dated for 4 years now. The problem is he is a very very nice ... A: He is acting too feminine and not masculine enough for you...is it reason enough? Yes.. Get him to ... | |
| ex-boyfriend rebound | 5/22/2012 |
| Q: So me and my ex were in a serious relationship for six months.we had lived together.for what ever ... A: Attraction is not a logical choice, so someone might say with words who they would or wouldn't go ... | |
| Broke it off with him and worried about lossing everything. | 5/20/2012 |
| Q: I recently broke it off with my boyfriend of a year and a half. He seems very loving but towards the ... A: If a guy stops exercising these following qualities, then it goes without saying that you ... | |
| Why is my ex-boyfriend doing this? | 5/11/2012 |
| Q: I am 18, and my ex-boyfriend, who I broke up with about 3 months ago, is 24. We dated for about 3 ... A: You shattered his ego. He is insecure. So he does this to try to make you jealous, to try to show ... | |
| Re: Wondering about Rebound Relationship | 5/4/2012 |
| Q: My ex girlfriend and I dated for nine months, we became really close and she wanted to marry me, but ... A: Women by nature have to seek a mate. Doesn't matter whether its a rebound or whatever. If she is ... | |
| I am very confused. | 5/2/2012 |
| Q: My boyfriend just broke up with me about 2 days ago. He says he still loves me and wants a ... A: You need to take some time for yourself and generate sources of happiness and validation away from ... | |
| relationship advice | 4/24/2012 |
| Q: I really need advice on what to do / how to handle my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been ... A: This is not love. And if it is its not mutual or unconditional. Rather you are addicted to him and ... | |
| help :( | 4/21/2012 |
| Q: my names Rosie and I have just broken up with the boy who i love more than anything. Its a very long ... A: Attraction is not a logical choice. Through life our attraction levels towards other people ... | |
| My fiancee left me for a rich older man | 4/18/2012 |
| Q: My fiancee, she's 24, left me for a 65 year old in February and i'm devastated and cannot understand ... A: She lost attraction for you. This happens for many reasons such as, sex gets boring and/or routine ... | |
| Help me understand... and move on | 4/18/2012 |
| Q: I am a woman in my late 30s, divorced, with 2 children. Over a month ago, I broke up with my ... A: It's healthy for both parties after a break up to go No Contact. That means you don't contact each ... | |
| My boyfriend has ED | 4/17/2012 |
| Q: I'm a 22 year old girl attending college. For the past 4 years I've been in a relationship with this ... A: You're not doing him or yourself any favours by being with this guy if you're feelings aren't ... | |
| Trying to survive a break up after one and a half years. | 4/16/2012 |
| Q: I met what I thought was a wonderful man a year after my husband passed away. He was so thoughtful ... A: You're addicted to him and the feelings he gives you. To move on take up some new hobbies, meet new ... | |
| Heartbreak after a year and a half | 4/10/2012 |
| Q: Hey, I really need some help. I have been with the same guy for a year and a half. Back in the ... A: It's human nature to want something we can't have so when someone breaks up with us it makes us even ... | |
| decode guy speak! | 4/7/2012 |
| Q: i just have a quick question regarding a recent issue that i have been dealing with. i just broke up ... A: He wants to have sex with you, number one. Besides that it doesn't sound as committed to you as you ... | |
| Help please | 3/29/2012 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I ended our relationship. She said that I couldn't communicate. We had a good ... A: Don't listen to her words, look at her actions. If you want to keep a women you need to keep her ... | |
| Help | 3/26/2012 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I just ended our relationship. She said I couldn't communicate. She has known me ... A: You need to do both. A break, and look for new friends (guys and girls) Then you will have the ... | |
| How do I accept it's over? | 3/23/2012 |
| Q: After being single for just over 3 years I met a great guy, we spoke every day for nearly a month ... A: Focus on work, career, hobbies, friends, family, and meeting new people. Do things to build your ... | |
| baby father | 3/22/2012 |
| Q: my birthday is 8-1-85 and my babys father bday is 8-6-82. we dated for 3 years and have a child ... A: I think you both need distance from each other for a while until you both get over each other, the ... | |
| Broken up but not over? | 3/15/2012 |
| Q: I was dating a guy for over a year... things were up and down alot... he wasn't really serious about ... A: This guy is/was your major source of validation as a woman and a person. So you need to seek ... | |
| Recent Breakup | 2/26/2012 |
| Q: I was dating a guy for almost 8 months. My first real boyfriend in 10 years. He recently broke up ... A: Best thing you can do is not contact him and move on with your life. This is the most attractive ... | |
| After the breakup | 2/21/2012 |
| Q: My name is aaron and im 21 years old. Me and my girlfriend just broke up about 2 weeks ago and she ... A: Yep. It's her nice way to end things for good i'm afraid. What you need to do now is not contact ... | |
| Ughhh why? | 2/14/2012 |
| Q: My name is Alice and im 19yrs old. About a year ago me and my ex-boyfriend (dated for a year and a ... A: It's quite normal in times of loneliness to think back to your ex, after all you spent a long time ... | |
| Affirmation | 2/13/2012 |
| Q: I am a 27 yr old female, and have been in a relationship with a 29 year old male since Oct. 2010. We ... A: Yes this story is very common. Men seek comfort from their long term partners, whilst women want ... | |
| Advice please | 2/13/2012 |
| Q: I'm a 24 year old female. I got out of a relationship with A last December. Our problem started when ... A: He broke up with you because he wants to try to be with other women. He will always keep in contact ... | |
| Being hated | 2/4/2012 |
| Q: So I realize me and Ehsan can't be friends. He hates me. I have never been hated before and I am ... A: Establish a lifestyle that avoids you being lonely so you don't seek ex's to fill this temporary ... | |
| Being hated | 2/3/2012 |
| Q: So I realize me and Ehsan can't be friends. He hates me. I have never been hated before and I am ... A: "I miss having someone". Yes you want someone not just this guy. Leave this guy alone if you really ... | |
| how to trust agian in a new relationship | 1/31/2012 |
| Q: its been about 4 years since i have decided to date again, i thought i was ready after being with ... A: Your trust issues aren't with other's they are with yourself. Subconsciously (or even consciously) ... | |
| Break up | 1/20/2012 |
| Q: Well me and my ex relationship is very complicated..we were together since we were 17 he went to ... A: When you need a man to make yourself feel good and validated as a women then all it shows is that ... | |
| Can I be his friend? | 1/12/2012 |
| Q: I am a woman who was dumped. The relationship was aweful but the guy ( we will call him Joe) is ... A: Yes you are very insecure and you go back to your exes to make yourself feel good. What you need to ... | |
| Break up? | 1/11/2012 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend broke up recently because she wanted the single life. She is only 16 and I ... A: Yes you can win her back easy with these 3 simple steps. 1) Stop contacting her 100% 2) Change ... | |
| How to break up in a long distance relationship? | 1/4/2012 |
| Q: I have been dating this wonderful guy for the past year and a half. Our relationship is a long ... A: Best thing to do is end it and cut all contact. This is the most humane thing to do. Worse thing you ... | |
| Should I break up with him? | 12/30/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend's 19, and I'm 22. He just finished his first semester of college, but failed the ... A: How is that youth wasted ? Is it youth wasted if you spend the next three years single and hook up ... | |
| Help | 12/19/2011 |
| Q: I'm a 24 year old female. I've been dating a 24 year old male for close to a year. I've recently ... A: Best thing is too move on and never contact him again. Take up new hobbies and meet new people until ... | |
| Complicated relationship | 12/16/2011 |
| Q: I was in a relationship with a guy for 3yrs now. He became quite uncertain in the middle but did not ... A: Neither of these guys is fulfilling you properly so you want to keep both in your life to satisfy ... | |
How to Breakup/Deal With Break Ups
Answers by Expert:
Harry Ax
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
I can answer any questions relating to break-ups, be it prior, during or after the break up.
Experience
Experienced and studied the main literature on break ups.
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Allexperts volunteer in the general dating section. Have received good feedback.
Education/Credentials
Bachelor of Science (psychology)
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High ratings in the allexperts general dating category.
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