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How to Breakup/Deal With Break Ups/Questions Answered by Expert Julie
| Subject | Date Asked |
| Im stuck | 1/15/2010 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for four years now and he had moved in about three months ago. The move ... A: I find that very cowardly of him to tell you this over msn.. It sounds like he has some issues and ... | |
| Make him jealous | 1/14/2010 |
| Q: "I have a friend that I really like. We have sex a lot, in fact there was a possibility that I was ... A: I would ignore him now..people always want what they can't have so dont' give in to him anymore at ... | |
| he fell out of love for me | 1/13/2010 |
| Q: hey thank u for your help. me & my ex boyfriend had been together for 3 years we been through alot ... A: Hey Stephanie, Since your ex decided he wanted to end things and that was the decision he made, ... | |
| 5 months break off | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: im 20 years old girl i recently had a break off with a guy 5 months ago after a 6 months relation. ... A: This guy sounds very shallow. I would ignore him, just because HE doesn't find you attractive to ... | |
| What Should I Do !? | 11/10/2009 |
| Q: Well i have been with this boy for about 6 years. In the beginning of the relationship i had a best ... A: Yes, this situation is unhealthy..you need to leave and give him time to himself and either he ... | |
| Any chance with her? | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so I was seeing this girl who I really like. It was like love at first site for me. We went on ... A: Well to be honest with you I totally agree with your psychologist. I would let her know how you feel ... | |
| is my ex string me along? | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: How are you? Hope you enjoy your holiday. I'm the one who ask you questions about "join ex facebook" ... A: If I were you I wouldn't question him. The bottom line is, if he really had intentions of working ... | |
| can we find the love that he says is gone? | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend says he doesn't love me anymore and has felt like that for about 6 weeks. He just feels ... A: Your welcome. You are doing the right thing. Another thing I want to point out is don't ask him at ... | |
| can we find the love that he says is gone? | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend says he doesn't love me anymore and has felt like that for about 6 weeks. He just feels ... A: Well there could be a number of reasons why he doesn't feel like he loves you anymore, he could be ... | |
| is my ex string me along? | 11/6/2009 |
| Q: How are you? Hope you enjoy your holiday. I'm the one who ask you questions about "join ex facebook" ... A: sorry to hear nothings changed. I think that he got what he wanted from you, got the reassurance you ... | |
| what should i do? | 10/2/2009 |
| Q: im 18 years old, and i was dating this guy, we met when i was 16 and he was 19 i was his first ... A: This is a hard situation to be in..theres not much you can do except focus on yourself and really ... | |
| Breakup after 29yrs | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: How does one even start to move on. Its like a death that you go through. After the big fight he ... A: Well what your going through certainly is tough. Thing is, and I hate to say it..but you won't even ... | |
| Break up | 9/28/2009 |
| Q: "I am 26 years old and am writing you today because last month my year-long relationship with my ... A: I am proud of you for standing your ground and not running back to her. She most likely would've ... | |
| How to break up with a girl on good terms | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: me and my girl have known each other since 1 1/2 year. we were hanging around for first 3 months ... A: Just tell her simply that its not working for you. Theres really no way of breaking up with anyone ... | |
| Complicated | 9/24/2009 |
| Q: Well over the past week or so I've have difficulties with guys.Nobody else can help me because they ... A: You have to go with your heart on this one. If its your ex you are still in love with then I'd say ... | |
| question | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: I really want to break up with my girlfriend. The problem is I don't want to hurt her. I know there ... A: You are right, theres no way you won't hurt her by breaking up with her. The best time to do this is ... | |
| Cant get over my ex | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: i dated my ex for about one and a half years and we were really tight together. she broke up with me ... A: Well unfortunatly thats the thing, by getting together with her and keeping in touch it will take a ... | |
| Long Distance | 9/21/2009 |
| Q: Hey, Im 17 (young i know ) and my ex boyfreind moved to Oz about 3 months ago we have been going ... A: I can tell you right now that it would be a huge mistake to put your life on hold for him to be with ... | |
| crying and pressure | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: ..my girlfriend broke up with me at the beginning of the year so its beena while but i just cant let ... A: Well you are right about one thing, never show weakness to someone, it will just push them away. I ... | |
| Broken up and want another chance | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend just brok up with me on August8th 09. We had been together for 2 1/2 yrs. The last ... A: I do think theres still a chance..but only as long as you totally leave her alone as she asked. Its ... | |
| how to forget about him | 9/15/2009 |
| Q: i just brooked up with my boo i been going out with him for 1 year i really love him but i need to ... A: It is very hard when you break up to forget about someone and not be jealous..trust me, everyone ... | |
| Broken up and want another chance | 9/15/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend just brok up with me on August8th 09. We had been together for 2 1/2 yrs. The last ... A: I think right now things are still too fresh in her mind and she still has a lot of resentment and ... | |
| Recent breakup confusion | 9/14/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend recently(few days ago) broke up with me with the reasoning that 'he did not love me ... A: It just sounds like he's got some commitment issues. I had a boyfriend like that. He freaked when I ... | |
| She loves me but just doen't know if i'm the one | 9/14/2009 |
| Q: ! Hope you can help!!! Ok here we go!! Me and my ex had been dating for just over a year, the ... A: I think you did great in handling things with her. You didn't pressure her, and you gave her the ... | |
| Beautiful Disaster | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: Hey Julie, My name is Kelly. I just got out of a relationship about 4 months ago. When I met ... A: Unfortunatly, it seems when someone does the breaking up we never really get closure or all the ... | |
| now what? | 9/9/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i broke up over my insecurites, that i have no clue where i got these from, i have ... A: I know this scenario all too well.. the problem is, as long as he can have you during this break up ... | |
| girlfriend. getting back? | 9/9/2009 |
| Q: i have had my girlfriend for around 3 months. but it was 2 weeks before summer holidays and after ... A: It might already be too late if she no longer has feelings and has moved on but the only chance you ... | |
| why | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: i had a baby a year ago today, and her father left me b4 she ws born....should i let him comeback? ... A: That right there I wouldnt take him back. He left his daughter and you, for another woman to use ... | |
| why | 9/7/2009 |
| Q: i had a baby a year ago today, and her father left me b4 she ws born....should i let him comeback? A: Well i would find out why he left in the first place, if thats the way he is then I wouldn't put it ... | |
| Kevin's "Hardest breakup I have had to deal with" | 9/7/2009 |
| Q: I read a message from someone called Kevin who wrote to Erica with the above mentioned subject. His ... A: I hope Kevin is okay as well. We all have dark thoughts when going through pain, I know that I have ... | |
| How Can He Do This? | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: The guy and I that have been dating for the last 2yrs recently broke up. The ultimate reason for the ... A: Oh trust me, this break up is for the best. The guy is VERY manipulative. He was cheating on you ... | |
| 4 years then he just goes missing?? | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: Now in that time when there has been an issue come up once in awhile mostly when hes been out ... A: Whatever you do, do not contact him. Don't tell him you are going out of town. Don't say anything. ... | |
| My boyfriend broke up with me | 9/3/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I just recently broke up, only three days ago. I've been absolutely miserable and ... A: When your boyfriend said that I think he meant he cares about you but doesn't have those strong ... | |
| how can I deal? | 8/27/2009 |
| Q: me & my boyfriend of 3 yrs recently broke up about 3 weeks. he broke up with me because he said he's ... A: Well it does sound like you guys need a break if things are stressful right now. But you shouldn't ... | |
| Ready to move on... | 8/27/2009 |
| Q: My first boyfriend (Adam – 20, me -19) broke up with me nearly three months ago (we dated for six ... A: I think it will be hard when you do see him especially since you still miss him. For example, my ex ... | |
| A Very Odd Parting | 8/22/2009 |
| Q: We enjoyed a very intense, satisfying, and most of all loving relationship, secure in our mutual ... A: Well unfortunatly the best way to get over this is no contact if you want it to be faster than if ... | |
| how to get a good guy back | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: I had a very kind and caring boyfriend who called everynight and was very attentive to everything I ... A: I'm proud of you for maintaining no contact. This ensures you gave him time to think about the ... | |
| If I made the right decision... | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: my name is Kathleen and I just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 1/2 years. I'm 26 years old. We ... A: I dont even have to think about this one to know you made the 100% right decision. This was a VERY ... | |
| breaking up | 8/19/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend of 9 months has decided he doesn't want to be with me any more hes done this a few ... A: I really don't think he should be contacting you like that. Its hard to say why he's doing it ... | |
| breaking up | 8/17/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend of 9 months has decided he doesn't want to be with me any more hes done this a few ... A: I understand your attachment to the daughter but I think its best to give some space between youa ... | |
| My Complicated relationship | 8/16/2009 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been together for a long while and we both admit we really love each ... A: Don't bring it up at all. Just bite your tongue and act like everythings fine. You never know, maybe ... | |
| breaking up | 8/15/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend of 9 months has decided he doesn't want to be with me any more hes done this a few ... A: It doesn't sound like it was a healthy relationship. I know its hard to be withouth him, no matter ... | |
| Breakup | 8/14/2009 |
| Q: i'v bin datin my bf 4 2yrs nw bt we seem 2 hv a problem.he hits me alot like more dan 4times n uses ... A: Well you don't need to go into details. What you have told me, was enough. LEAVE HIM! He is ... | |
| My Complicated relationship | 8/14/2009 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been together for a long while and we both admit we really love each ... A: Have a talk with her and ask her how she really feels, if she feels you have made changes in that ... | |
| i want my gf back. | 8/12/2009 |
| Q: i asked my girlfriend at first for just friendship, but she made made my fall in love with her and ... A: Well unfortunatly when someone decides to leave you, you can't do anything to get them to come back. ... | |
| Moving Out and Moving On | 8/7/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years (I'm 28, he's 26)and we have lived together for a ... A: You are doing the absolute right thing by leaving him. Don't feel guilty, you shouldn't feel guilty. ... | |
| Any thoughts? | 8/6/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I broke up in the beginning of January, you can only imagine how amazing my New ... A: I think he's confused and I think he still just turns to you as a friend. If he really wanted a ... | |
| follow up question of join ex face book | 8/6/2009 |
| Q: my ex now is starting to mesg me everyday or every second day letting me know about his work, he ... A: Well I never encourage someone to sleep with their ex because it just makes them feel worse ... | |
| Relationship Problems - Breakups and new 1s | 8/6/2009 |
| Q: OK, I'm 25 and ended a relationship about 5 months ago while i was in my final year of Uni. That ... A: You need to continue giving her space. If you pressure her, you risk pushing her away and losing her ... | |
| I want OVER!! | 7/24/2009 |
| Q: Hey Julie, I have a problem...i'm in a long distance relationship with this guy named Alex were both ... A: Just tell him that the long distance isn't working for you and you want to concentrate on school and ... | |
| 5 year relationship down the drain! | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend went to school together and have known each other on and off since elementary ... A: Wow not very mature of him to take off like that after one fight. And to leave for New york just ... | |
| should i move on | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years and its been great we have learned about eachother ... A: I would not wait. Trust me on this. I made that mistake once. My ex told me maybe in six months, or ... | |
| Obsession or love. | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: I have a friend (male) who's totally taken by his ex. When he asks me for advice about his ex, he ... A: Well it does sound like a bad situation. Unfortunatly the only thing you can do is be there for him. ... | |
| follow up question of join ex face book | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: my ex now is starting to mesg me everyday or every second day letting me know about his work, he ... A: Well the thing is by continuing to talk to him or allow him to contact you, you kept reading too ... | |
| My depressed girlfriend, what to do | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend makes me unhappy. I love her, but she's always so down, I can hardly get through some ... A: Have you talked to her family about this? If they know about this, then its their responsibility to ... | |
| follow up question of "join ex face book"? | 7/19/2009 |
| Q: my ex now is starting to mesg me everyday or every second day letting me know about his work, he ... A: The reason he's keeping in touch with you is probably just simply because he wants to remain friends ... | |
| How to get my love back? | 7/18/2009 |
| Q: I am a 23 old guy. I was into a relationship for 5 months with my best friend. Now a couple of ... A: I am sorry but it sounds like she is going to stick to this. And theres really nothing you can do ... | |
| Break Up | 7/17/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I of almost a year and a half have just broken up. We had minor set backs in our ... A: It sounds like he's confused and to be honest, doesn't sound like he's been very honest with you ... | |
| bread up with baby's dad | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: hey, my boyfriend and i have been dating for just over a year now. we have a 2 1/2 month old baby ... A: the only thing you can do is to be honest with him. Tell him that you no longer want to be in a ... | |
| How to deal with giving my ex sometime | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering what advise you would have for me on my situation. I want to get back with my ex ... A: I am impressed! your doing all the right things. And your right, don't give her any comfort that you ... | |
| druggie partner | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: I have almost the same problem as the man who asked you a question before about the girl who is a ... A: This is a very unhealthy situation and I think its best you leave him. Don't ever stay with anyone ... | |
| Break up | 6/24/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 13 years. I have been trying to break up with him for about 3 ... A: You just need to do it. i was in a similar situation as well, I just changed the locks and had to ... | |
| Break Up | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: My first boyfriend and I broke up two weeks ago. We dated for six months, and he broke up with me. ... A: Everything your going through is totally normal in a break up.. The only way to get over this ... | |
| break-up | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating a girl for about a month, and things were going very well. She told me she loved ... A: Well whatever is troubling her was enough for her to push you away, even if you don't think it was ... | |
| He doesn't want to get back together | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: I am 20 years old and I have had only one boyfriend to date. We started dating at the end of high ... A: Well it sounds like your ex has his mind made up, maybe time helped him realize you both weren't ... | |
| its been a while | 6/22/2009 |
| Q: I am 18 years old now with a great boyfriend of 4 months.. but No matter what I do I always get ... A: It does sound like you were in love with him, and sometimes it is hard to forget a first love, and ... | |
| How to get over my child's father? | 6/22/2009 |
| Q: My ex and I were together for about 8 years, four strong years and 4 off and on. We then had a child ... A: That is a difficult situation of course. And very painful since you still have to see him for the ... | |
| does he really love me | 6/18/2009 |
| Q: My bf of almost 10 yrs has me so fed up & confused. He recently told me that I was not marriage ... A: It does sound like he has a lot of resentment built up towards you. Not saying he doesn't love you, ... | |
| i want my ex back...but she has a new guy... | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: my ex girlfriend and I broke up 2 weeks or so ago and it has been tough for me. we ended on "good ... A: Your probably going through a mixture of feelings. People want what they can't have so now that she ... | |
| WANT BY GIRL BACK IN MY LIFE | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: i was in a releationship for about 2.5yrs we were very happy and had lot of plans for our future but ... A: Well the only thing you can do is tell her you love her and are willing to try again and make her ... | |
| Typical ex-boyfriend problems | 6/15/2009 |
| Q: So I'm in my first year of high school, and I went out with this guy for a few months. He broke up ... A: Well trying to talk to him and convince him won't help, people like to see the change for ... | |
| WANT BY GIRL BACK IN MY LIFE | 6/15/2009 |
| Q: i was in a releationship for about 2.5yrs we were very happy and had lot of plans for our future but ... A: I am sure she cares about you, its hard to tell what her intentions are though. Maybe you just ... | |
| i want my family | 6/14/2009 |
| Q: hey julie, okay here it goes im a single 25yr old mom of one. I live wit just me & my son me & his ... A: YES love is blind sometimes, sometimes even in the worst of situations when we love someone, it ... | |
| regain my self esteem and dignity | 6/14/2009 |
| Q: My ex is totally ignore me today, i didn't reach out to him either, but i feel so hurt, ashamed and ... A: Well thats the thing, he keeps giving you false hope. He obviously does not have any intentions of ... | |
| will he come back to me | 6/12/2009 |
| Q: i have just come out of a 2 yr relationship with this guy i am really struggling to cope it all ... A: Well it doesn't sound like he was very committed to this relationship at all. I understand how much ... | |
| regain my self esteem and dignity | 6/12/2009 |
| Q: My ex is totally ignore me today, i didn't reach out to him either, but i feel so hurt, ashamed and ... A: Your welcome, I am glad to help. It does sound like he has some feelings for you but it doesn't ... | |
| Confused about what to do! | 6/12/2009 |
| Q: I been dating this guy for just over 3yrs we was best mates before... he was attracted to me I ... A: This doesn't sound like the healthiest relationship..and its clear that right now he doesn't want a ... | |
| First Breakup | 6/12/2009 |
| Q: My first boyfriend just broke up with me (I’m 19). It was a six month long relationship. He broke up ... A: First break ups along with any break up is very hard. Its normal to be missing him and really sad ... | |
| How am I supposed to react..... | 6/11/2009 |
| Q: Good Morning Julie, Hope your doing well..... I have a 2 queries, Hope you would reply back ... A: Wow sounds like you had it rough.. The thing is you probably won't be able to overcome all this on ... | |
| boyfriend's using all excuses to get rid of me | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: So this started a little later after my boyfriend had a fight with his parents over me. I don't ... A: If he's asking for forgiveness and he really wants to put in the effort to work things out then its ... | |
| this guy. | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: Okay well there's this guy that wanted to get to know me and I said okay , I never thought I would ... A: In some cases yes..if he likes you at all. If he doesn't then he won't try at all. I understand its ... | |
| Sounds normal, but not for me.... | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: i guess you have heard this before.. i was interested in this girl for a year, i had known her ... A: Well if she was truly interested in you she would've chosen to be with you. Unfortunatly she didn't. ... | |
| ex gf of 5 days just got a new bf... | 6/9/2009 |
| Q: my gf and i broke up last week and now i found out yesterday that she has a new bf. is this ... A: Well everyone does this for different reasons but either she knew this guy all along (not saying she ... | |
| this guy. | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: Okay well there's this guy that wanted to get to know me and I said okay , I never thought I would ... A: In this case just act nonchalant and very uninterested..if he's smart enough he will catch on. No ... | |
| boyfriend's using all excuses to get rid of me | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: So this started a little later after my boyfriend had a fight with his parents over me. I don't ... A: Well the thing is you are just prolonging the misery and its only gonna get worse. He is trying to ... | |
| In need of advice... | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: I just need some type of advised on how to cope and react with this situation in my life. I have ... A: Well lets just say I am in somewhat of a similar situation as you, ex has issues he needs to work on ... | |
| this guy. | 6/6/2009 |
| Q: Okay well there's this guy that wanted to get to know me and I said okay , I never thought I would ... A: The only way to get over this guy is to completely stop talking to him and answering his texts and ... | |
| break in a relationship | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: last month my girlfriend and i broke up. it was fairly mutual and civil as we decided we were ... A: Usually taking a break from a relationship can be a good thing. It makes you take a step back and ... | |
| My boyfriend might leave me..and I don't know how to handle it | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are both 21 yrs old and have been together for 2 years. We are in somewhat of a ... A: Personally I wouldn't call him. It IS hard, when my ex broke up with me I went thru everything you ... | |
| My boyfriend might leave me..and I don't know how to handle it | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are both 21 yrs old and have been together for 2 years. We are in somewhat of a ... A: I know that feeling. You are just acting out of fear, and its hard when you are scared of losing ... | |
| what to do... | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: Okay so here goes... February of 2006 I start dating what I can now call my highschool ... A: Well this sounds like a very dysfunctional relationship.. Honestly I think the break up is for the ... | |
| break up? | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: Julie, Well my girlfriend..ex I guess you'd say now..were together around 2 months. We hit it off ... A: Well she does sound like she overreacted, and took it the wrong way. You were rightfully concerned ... | |
| break up... | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: This is a follow up question to the '2.5 year relationship gone bad' I hope you'll know which one ... A: The BEST way to get someone back is to move on..I know it sounds crazy, but nothing makes an ex ... | |
| break up... | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I recently (yesterday) split up after about 2.5 years together. There was a ... A: Well from her perspective sounds like she still cares about you, but doesn't want to be with you ... | |
| My girlfriend broke up with me | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: I´m 26 years old and I´m from venezuela. My girlfriend vanessa is 21 years old and we have been ... A: Thats a tough one because you broke trust..it might be innocent but to her it might not be. You need ... | |
| I don`t know what to do!! | 5/31/2009 |
| Q: My name is Kayla and I need help in dealing with a relationship. I am 19 and the man I love is 26, ... A: Oh yes I know this situation all too well, I've been in a relationship much like yours, he wasn't ... | |
| Putting theory into practice..but it still hurts. | 5/30/2009 |
| Q: . I have emailed you before about a guy I am trying to get over. If you might recall, I called him ... A: You totally did the right thing. I know its driving you crazy but its better than telling him your ... | |
| not sure how to deal/confused | 5/30/2009 |
| Q: well my story is too long but would try to cut it short as possible...i cant understand exactly wat ... A: Its plain and simple, she isnt ready for a boyfriend from the sounds of it. Sounds to me like she ... | |
| regain my self esteem and dignity | 5/30/2009 |
| Q: My ex is totally ignore me today, i didn't reach out to him either, but i feel so hurt, ashamed and ... A: The only thing you can do now is just completely ignore him. Now he knows how you feel and you don't ... | |
| follow up question of join ex face book? | 5/29/2009 |
| Q: My ex just send me another measg which told me that he just bought the new phone which will help him ... A: Well he got close to you and then he pulled away probably because he got scared and didn't know what ... | |
| Why do i still like him | 5/28/2009 |
| Q: Why am I still jealous of a guy who cheated on me, used me, abused me, neglected me, ignored me, and ... A: Well this is a bad situation. I was in that situation. My ex was everything your ex was as well..and ... | |
| Is it really over? | 5/28/2009 |
| Q: Hey, im 19 and so is my ex. My girlfriend of four months and i broke up 3 weeks ago. Now i know it's ... A: well I can tell you that unfortunatly during a breakup you did everything wrong. You did everything ... | |
| How to tell my ex that I want him back | 5/28/2009 |
| Q: I broke up with my ex. Its been two months now and I have had lots of time to think. I now want him ... A: You did exactly the right thing!! but you are right, its time to move on because you can't sit ... | |
| How to tell my ex that I want him back | 5/27/2009 |
| Q: I broke up with my ex. Its been two months now and I have had lots of time to think. I now want him ... A: I would just call him up and ask if he's interested in going for coffee or something, or just ask ... | |
| please.don't judge me | 5/26/2009 |
| Q: I need a friend and support at the moment. My live in bf over a year break up. We had good and bad ... A: Of course I won't judge you! From the sounds of it you are doing what you can to start your life ... | |
| follow up question of join ex face book? | 5/23/2009 |
| Q: My ex just send me another measg which told me that he just bought the new phone which will help him ... A: He's sending mixed messages probably because he really does care and miss you but isn't really ready ... | |
| Can I move on? | 5/21/2009 |
| Q: I've been with this guy for 4 years. For the past 4 years, we've had our ups and downs like most ... A: I think bottom line is that he's not as in love with you as you are with him, otherwise he would not ... | |
| When he says he needs time | 5/21/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I started dating right after his wife left him. We have been dating for eight ... A: Not too sure if he's trying to break up with you or not but he'd probably have told you and then not ... | |
| closure | 5/21/2009 |
| Q: .. This guy.. whom I will call "G," is a guy I was seeing on and off. He was someone I really liked ... A: Your welcome. And yes it will just take time unfortunatly. It will happen faster if you don't talk ... | |
| closure | 5/21/2009 |
| Q: .. This guy.. whom I will call "G," is a guy I was seeing on and off. He was someone I really liked ... A: You are having a hard time getting over him...and your right, when we are trying to get over someone ... | |
| breakup | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: hey , i broke up with my EX since 2 month and he claimed that i kept on hurting him because ... A: Well its up to you, but personally I wouldn't, I wouldn't be bothered to give him the time of day ... | |
| follow up question of "join ex face book"? | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: My ex just send me another measg which told me that he just bought the new phone which will help him ... A: I think he's just being friendly but if you really want to know the best thing to do is just out ... | |
| Stuck in a Rut | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: Recently. my boyfriend and i of a year and a half broke up. It happened after a fight we had where ... A: Yes that is a very hard situation. And very frustrating. If he really believes it is better to be ... | |
| is it over? | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating a girl for 9 months. Our time together was great and we got along so good ... A: Well unfortunatly theres not much you can do. She sounds genuinely confused and doesn't know what ... | |
| Join ex face book? | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: My ex broke up with me 4 and 1/2 month ago and we have no contact for about 3 and 1/2 month up to ... A: From the sounds of it, it sounds like he's just being kind to you..but doesn't sound like he wants ... | |
| to clear humiliated feeling | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: I made contact with a college friend 3 months ago. He lives in a different city and travels alot for ... A: Well when it comes to matters of the heart we all make those mistakes. I know I have many times and ... | |
| Followup to Continued from Why did this Happen | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: Ok, just one more question regarding this whole issue. After I wrote the last question, I did get ... A: I would go to the sentencing and speak your mind. Although it may be hard to see him and say what ... | |
| Confusing break up | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: I met this girl (she is 19, I am 27) about 2 months ago and we hit it off right off the bat. I find ... A: Well you may never get the answer out of her. She probably decided for whatever reason that she just ... | |
| getting over a breakup | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: Whatever you can tell me to heal up from a man I truly fell in love with who was two-timing me..... ... A: Well sounds like you are doing all the right things in getting over your ex. And its great you know ... | |
| break up do i move on? | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: i have really been taking so much strain getting over my ex and we only dated for around four ... A: Well two weeks isn't long enough to recover..I myself was in a four month relationship and it took ... | |
| i need help with my relationship | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: ok, I'm in a long distance relationship with this guy that I've been with for a year and two months ... A: Long distance relationships are really hard and when he doesn't act consistently then its hard not ... | |
| trying again | 5/16/2009 |
| Q: ok so i have posted on here before. last night i tried breaking up again. it didn't go so well. (i ... A: I can tell you right now that the reason she does this is because she sees she gets results.. its ... | |
| The Everything Is Fine Blues | 5/14/2009 |
| Q: I am in a relationship that has lasted well over a year. I am twenty-two and she is twenty. We love ... A: Well heres the thing, you aren't happy now, and it doesn't sound like she is either. Sounds like you ... | |
| Continued from Why did this happen? 3/26/09 | 5/14/2009 |
| Q: This is an add on to "Why did this happen" from 3/26/09, which I asked you, Julie. After this ... A: Well first off, I am not surprised he didn't change. Guys like him don't change..I'm sure its ... | |
| I got broken up with | 5/13/2009 |
| Q: Well I dated my ex for 2 years, I'm 19 and she's 20. We had a great relationship, we had a lot of ... A: Well she obviously still loves you and maybe she has some hope of working things out. begging ... | |
| I got broken up with | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: Well I dated my ex for 2 years, I'm 19 and she's 20. We had a great relationship, we had a lot of ... A: I can honestly tell you that if you keep fighting you will lose her. Its just going to push her ... | |
| Join ex face book? | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: My ex broke up with me 4 and 1/2 month ago and we have no contact for about 3 and 1/2 month up to ... A: Well the question is, do you think he wants to rekindle the love?? If I were you, to be sure, I ... | |
| Oh, the pain!! | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: Well I recently just got out of my first relationship, unfortunately the break up did not go very ... A: Personally, I would not be friends with that girl. I think what she's doing is very inconsiderate. ... | |
| Mixed signals from my common law husband | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: we have been together for 5 and a half years. We just had a baby girl 2 months ago I'm not going ... A: He really doesn't know how to communicate does he? The thing is what he's doing is slightly abusive, ... | |
| Should I contact him? | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: .Thank-you in advance for your time in answering my question. My question is if I should contact my ... A: If I were you I'd go after what you really want because with this much breaking up and getting back ... | |
| Millitary Relationship | 5/9/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 19 year old sailor who was recently dumped my by 17 year old girlfriend of a year and a half ... A: Sorry you are going through all this. The thing is long distance relationships are really really ... | |
| Join ex face book? | 5/8/2009 |
| Q: My ex broke up with me 4 and 1/2 month ago and we have no contact for about 3 and 1/2 month up to ... A: If this breakup is still painful I would avoid joining his facebook. What if you see pictures of him ... | |
| My first love | 5/6/2009 |
| Q: I don't know weither or not I should try to get him back. I am young I'm of the age of fourteen, but ... A: No problem at all!! First off..when you found out he was with this other girl, he did it to get you ... | |
| Contact With Ex-Boyfriend | 5/6/2009 |
| Q: My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 1 1/2 years, we were living together for a little over a ... A: I wouldn't contact him to ask him or give a deadline because he knows exactly where you stand with ... | |
| Waiting in vain | 5/3/2009 |
| Q: I have a boyfriend for 2 years. After 1 year of relationship with him, i found out that he have ... A: I would honestly give up on him. If he really wanted to be with you he'd do whatever he can to be ... | |
| How to get over it QUICKLY | 5/3/2009 |
| Q: I was with my now ex-boyfriend for 7 months. We didn't have the smoothest relationship. In the ... A: Well its only been a day or two since you broke up and its hard to move on that fast unfortunatly. ... | |
| frustrated | 5/2/2009 |
| Q: i am 18 years old, i asked a question about a week ago, i dont know if you rember me or not. Anyway ... A: Thats the problem with being friends with someone you still have feelings for but who isn't ready to ... | |
| I need help | 5/2/2009 |
| Q: my name is Gina. I know this guy for about 4 years. We started dating the year after we meet, I was ... A: Yes what he's doing is very wrong, for one, he's using you and for two, he's cheating on these other ... | |
| How to cope | 4/30/2009 |
| Q: I met this guy through one of my friends and the guy was her cousin. We fell for each other ... A: Well you did what you did because he had hurt you. You stood up for yourself and you should never ... | |
| Contact With Ex-Boyfriend | 4/29/2009 |
| Q: My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 1 1/2 years, we were living together for a little over a ... A: The girl in the park could've been anyone..I have guy friends I hang out with also. It does sound ... | |
| Mixed Signals | 4/29/2009 |
| Q: I dont understand the mixed signals I am getting from a girl that broke up with me. 3 months after ... A: That does sound like she's giving you mixed signals. IT sounds like she still has strong feelings ... | |
| What does he mean? | 4/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy for close to three weeks - so not too long - and it seemed to be going ... A: I would talk to him and ask if theres anything different he would like you to do that would make him ... | |
| Past Bad Relationship | 4/28/2009 |
| Q: I've never had a serious relationship but I did have a brief lets say horrible relationship with a ... A: Don't feel bad for what you went through. I have people look at me and question why I stayed with a ... | |
| sad break up | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: i am 18 years old. I have been dating a girl for about five months now, well it just ended this ... A: You can try to be her friend and see how she takes that..with the bbq you are planning on having and ... | |
| relationship break up | 4/26/2009 |
| Q: I am disraught. I have been living with my girlfriend fornearly 2 years and we have broken up. I was ... A: Sorry to hear all that you are going through..I know how devastating it is to lose someone, and ... | |
| break-up or not? | 4/25/2009 |
| Q: im 17 nearly 18 me and my boyfriend have been together for about nine/ten months. i really love and ... A: I would leave him. If he's possessive and abusive its not going to just end now, even if things have ... | |
| Past Bad Relationship | 4/24/2009 |
| Q: I've never had a serious relationship but I did have a brief lets say horrible relationship with a ... A: The reason you feel like this is because it was a horrible experience and one you haven't really let ... | |
| I want my best friend back | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: I had a friend no best friend.Then d relation changed 2 love.But at d end of our skul days she felt ... A: Have you spoken to her and told her how you feel? Let her know that alls you want is her friendship ... | |
| To try and understand the break up | 4/22/2009 |
| Q: I dated this guy for a year. He admitted he had watched me, not stalkerish but noticed for 8 months ... A: I think you need to continue doing what your doing, don't talk to him, don't text him and just try ... | |
| Dating a new girl | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: I am a member of A.A. and was attracted to a woman for some time I saw in meetings. Let me say that ... A: Hard to say why she pulled away, there could be various reasons, I don't really think it would be ... | |
| will he come back | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: Hi my name is Kiera me and my ex-boyfriend were together for six months we broke up because of a ... A: Thats a hard question to answer. Only he knows the answer to that one. If you don't want to push ... | |
| Letting Go. | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: I am only young so sometimes I feel so stupid asking about cirtain things when it comes to ... A: I 've had a guy break up with me before for those very same issues. Heres what I learned, if ... | |
| heartbroken over a much needed breakup | 4/16/2009 |
| Q: ..I have been dating my ex boyfriend for almost 3 years and we have a 4 month old daughter ... A: Thats too bad he doesn't want to make things work but unfortunatly thats his decision. Your right ... | |
| Can I get back with my ex? | 4/15/2009 |
| Q: I was dating this amazing girl for 2 months. Then, we had our first big fight and it resulted in her ... A: If you don't want to push her away then don't pressure her into getting back together. Its possible ... | |
| girlfriend of over 2 years | 4/15/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend of 2 years and 3 months brokeup with me last wednesday. First she went on a break with ... A: Trust me, I hate it when someone and I break up and they tell me theres other fish in the sea too.. ... | |
| What should I do now? | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for the last 4 years and for almost half of it, it has been a ... A: I agree with you, you deserve someone who will love you and not want to break up with you. If he ... | |
| five years a child and she act like it never happened | 4/10/2009 |
| Q: I've Been Dating the mother of my child since I was 14 we dated for five years and in the fifth year ... A: That is tough but it sounds like she's now enjoying the single life after being in a long term ... | |
| I miss him too much to do my work... | 4/10/2009 |
| Q: I am 18, and there is this 19 year old boy with whom I have been hopelessly in love with for the ... A: I'd say your a little obsessed but its getting too much in the way of your life. You need to stop ... | |
| She said it is not a good time to be together .. | 4/8/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so my problem is that i have been with this girl for the past 3 months or so and it was great i ... A: Well then your gonna have to respect what she's saying so that she can get the issues on her side ... | |
| Can exs still be friends? | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: My name is David. Over two years ago, I broke up with my ex and we decided to remain friends. Then ... A: Well you can't really blame her then if she was raised like that and its her culture and then to ... | |
| He came back!!! | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: Recently I had gone through a break up, I'd say about 3 months ago. It was going really crappy, as ... A: Its too bad you have to wonder if you made the right decision, but I guess you will find out after ... | |
| Can exs still be friends? | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: My name is David. Over two years ago, I broke up with my ex and we decided to remain friends. Then ... A: I think both are way off base. For one, you shouldn't have to stop being friends with any ex that ... | |
| Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds... | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: Sorry for the Shakespeare title haha. Ok. My question, right. This is probably going to be a little ... A: Well don't feel bad that you fell out of love, these things happen, and sometimes you can't control ... | |
| Troubles Moving On | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: Hey Julie. I was wondering if I could get some advice on moving on from a breakup. Me and my former ... A: Start going out with your friends, but don't make it about looking for someone else. Just be casual ... | |
| out of sight, out of mind? | 4/5/2009 |
| Q: As you said i just have to keep no contact and move on, if he want me he'll let me know or contact ... A: No I think its best not to be friends til your healed and if he really loves you he won't forget ... | |
| Boyfriend doesn't love me | 4/3/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 3 years has told me he never really loved me. I don't want to break up and I want ... A: If your boyfriend says he doesn't love you then you need to believe him. My ex never really loved ... | |
| what does he mean? | 4/3/2009 |
| Q: I recently was broke up with my boyfriend,he is the one who initiated it. after that i told him i ... A: Well I think if he wanted you back he'd have told you in the message. When he said he respects your ... | |
| why is she texting but not really trying to talk? | 4/1/2009 |
| Q: I have bin with this girl for about 3 years and its bin pretty up and down. the thing is that i left ... A: Its hard to say forsure why she's texting. Maybe she wants to see if things can be worked out. Maybe ... | |
| Isn't time to commit | 4/1/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my partner for little over 3 years, all in all we enjoy each others company until ... A: It sounds like your not asking for much. You just want what comes naturally in any loving, committed ... | |
| Mind Games | 3/31/2009 |
| Q: my ex just recently sent me a message via facebook, I have not added her or seen her in 2 years and ... A: I'm sure its not a big deal..she's probably just seeing how your doing. And nothing more. I have ... | |
| Help Confused!! | 3/31/2009 |
| Q: I am 23 years old and have been dating by boyfriend for 8 1/2 years. About 6 years ago I had a ... A: It sounds like he's totally making excuses. If marriage was important to him, he would not be ... | |
| Bipolar? | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and i have been together for a year and a half. We both have done our share of alcohol ... A: Well moving is up to you but your right, your dealing with enough on your plate right now and the ... | |
| long distance girlfriend unsure about taking a break | 3/29/2009 |
| Q: "Hello, I'm 20, my long distance girl of 3 months is 19 and is not sure if she wants to take a break ... A: I think she would still miss you because even though in the last two weeks you haven't been talking ... | |
| Should I move on?? | 3/29/2009 |
| Q: I am 21 and my boyfriend is 25,we have been in a relationship for 5 years.We are very committed to ... A: It feels like you can't live without him but thats not true. You can live without him and if you ... | |
| Heart ache | 3/29/2009 |
| Q: I have not been with my boyfriend that long but when we first got together everything was great we ... A: Sounds like he's being a little vengeful. I would just let this go, you were at least honest with ... | |
| cheating and breakup | 3/28/2009 |
| Q: ..i've been in a relationship for 4 years. The last year of the relationship is a long distance. For ... A: Well whether you want her back or not is totally up to you, and how you can handle that she has ... | |
| 5 Year Break-up | 3/27/2009 |
| Q: IT's been 2 weeks since the break-up occurred. My boyfriend and I moved in together two years ago ... A: Sorry to hear about everything that you've gone through but you do sound like a very strong woman. ... | |
| Break up | 3/27/2009 |
| Q: I had recently ended a two year relationship last September.. Although we had broken up, we were ... A: Your welcome. Thats too bad she won't listen. If thats the case, just ignore her as much as ... | |
| should i move on | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: I've know this girl for 4 years but dated each other for 3 months I know ever thing there is to ... A: Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. I'd just let her go, especially since she said she ... | |
| Why did this happen | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: Ok, quickly, this is the situation. I have been dating this guy on and off for like 4 years. In ... A: Wow, sounds like you were dating my ex, same things happened except we never had children and I was ... | |
| what going on? | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: my ex and i dated for about 3 years but it was and on and off again relationship. we broke because ... A: Well if she found someone new and is happy theres not much you can do to convince her you are better ... | |
| out of ideas | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: ok, so this is a very messy and touchy situation. i have been with my girlfriend for over 2 years ... A: I remember doing the same thing when I was her age when a guy broke up with me, I was manipulative ... | |
| Break up | 3/25/2009 |
| Q: I had recently ended a two year relationship last September.. Although we had broken up, we were ... A: Oh I know what your going through. My ex and I work together too and exact same thing. It sucks ... | |
| What happened? | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: I met a guy through one of my flatmate a few months back. We hit it off well. Later, my flatmate had ... A: Its hard to say whats going on with this guy but sounds to me like he doesn't know what he wants!! ... | |
| Break up | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: I had recently ended a two year relationship last September.. Although we had broken up, we were ... A: Well I wouldn't say she was necessarily seeing someone else before january, its possible she just ... | |
| my relationship | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: I just got home from Florida with my boyfriend, we were dating for 7 months, while we were in ... A: He sounds really confused. I'd say since he did the breaking up, the best thing for you to do is ... | |
| out of ideas | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: ok, so this is a very messy and touchy situation. i have been with my girlfriend for over 2 years ... A: Well it does sound like she has a lot of growing up to do. Your right, definitly don't treat her bad ... | |
| I want my ex back | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: A little over a week ago my girl friend broke up with me. It came out of no where, and I was so ... A: Well for starters, its not fair that she just broke up with you without telling you the problems ... | |
| Are we going to break up | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: I am so upset at the moment and really don't know how to handle things. I had an affair 2 years ago ... A: Well I think its good you two are taking a break then so she can decide what exactly it is that she ... | |
| break-up/child custody | 3/21/2009 |
| Q: I got my girlfriend pregnant 9 months ago and have attempted to make a relationship work but it ... A: The only thing you can do is to get a lawyer. Since every situation is different, a lawyer will be ... | |
| insecure ex | 3/21/2009 |
| Q: I really need some help/advice. In the last 3 months, my ex-boyfriend has been harassing me. He ... A: Was he insecure like this during the relationship? He's stalking you and that is a crime. If you ... | |
| bad breakup | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: I just wanted to run this one by you as I'm not sure what happened to me. I met this girl 2 months ... A: Well on day 6 of course its gonna still be hard and very painful. It takes time to start feeling ... | |
| bad breakup | 3/19/2009 |
| Q: I just wanted to run this one by you as I'm not sure what happened to me. I met this girl 2 months ... A: I think its best to let this go for now. She sounds kind of confused and probably just wants to be ... | |
| sent flowers, no response | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: well i sent flowers. my friend said she wasn't home, and left them on her doorstep. that was 9 am ... A: I wouldn't call. If she hasn't thanked you yet for the flowers or anything I wouldn't. By asking her ... | |
| sent flowers, no response | 3/17/2009 |
| Q: well i sent flowers. my friend said she wasn't home, and left them on her doorstep. that was 9 am ... A: She probably just wants some space so I'd leave her alone right now. If she was done she'd probably ... | |
| getting someone back | 3/17/2009 |
| Q: I wonder if she is really in to me? She has told me when we broke up and after she is very ... A: I think you should be patient. Its frustrating trust me I know..but it does sound like she's into ... | |
| Break Up | 3/17/2009 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend were together for a couple years. I had a problem with her past and her ... A: The only way for you to move on is to stop texting or calling and looking at her social networking ... | |
| getting back together | 3/16/2009 |
| Q: advice on how to get my ex girlfriend back? we've been broken up for 4 months and we have been ... A: Yes she will and thats very very important. It most likely will take some more time from the sounds ... | |
| breakup or break?? | 3/16/2009 |
| Q: broke up with gf,1 month ago. well she dumped me. we had been fighting alot the last few months. ... A: She should just keep it simple. Not just drop it off and leave but maybe just tell her why she's ... | |
| break-up | 3/15/2009 |
| Q: ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half.its never been the most desirable situation because ... A: Your right its not the ideal situation. Thing is, you can't be with someone who is still married and ... | |
| just split | 3/13/2009 |
| Q: basically i was with my girlfriend for 13 months shes 17 and im 19, we have had our fair share of ... A: I don't think someone who really loved you and was with you that long can just switch the feelings ... | |
| break up | 3/11/2009 |
| Q: ive been with my husband for 15yrs and married nearly 11 yrs,we have 4 young children.in 4 mths he ... A: Have you talked to him about why he's so unhappy that he feels the need to leave his wife and kids? ... | |
| Looking for advice | 3/9/2009 |
| Q: I recently lost my girlfriend, I had known her for almost a year and a half all of which has a deep ... A: If you want to be friends with her alls you have to simply do is call or email her and tell her ... | |
| break ups | 3/9/2009 |
| Q: Sorry it’s a little, long please read. My ex and I were together for three and a half years and ... A: I think you are 100% on track here. I agree, you have to do whats best for yourself. Staying friends ... | |
| second chance | 3/9/2009 |
| Q: I have a problem that I’m hopping you could help me a little with. My most recent girlfriend of ... A: Honestly I wouldn't bring that subject up to her again..it will just end up making her uncomfortable ... | |
| getting back together | 3/6/2009 |
| Q: advice on how to get my ex girlfriend back? we've been broken up for 4 months and we have been ... A: I think she's confused if she's making the right decision or not...she sounds like she feels ready ... | |
| getting back together | 3/6/2009 |
| Q: advice on how to get my ex girlfriend back? we've been broken up for 4 months and we have been ... A: I would definitly go with my gut then. She probably does just want to be friends right now and thats ... | |
| can not understand | 3/6/2009 |
| Q: i have been with her for 14yrs now we are seperated she said she did not trust me and that i lied to ... A: Wow she really tried to turn things around on you didn't she? Honestly, she's probably saying all ... | |
| getting back together | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: advice on how to get my ex girlfriend back? we've been broken up for 4 months and we have been ... A: Maybe try talking to her..and see how she feels about getting into a relationship with you again. ... | |
| break ups | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: Sorry it’s a little, long please read. My ex and I were together for three and a half years and ... A: Well I definitly think she misses you by the actions you have said, but it doesn't mean necessarily ... | |
| Dont know what to do | 3/4/2009 |
| Q: I'm not the kind of a person that ever does this, asks and seeks others' help. But I can't seem to ... A: I think truthfully you haven't fallen in love with anyone else because you haven't met anyone else ... | |
| He said he needed time to think | 3/4/2009 |
| Q: Ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years , and we've been living together ... A: Well the best advice I can give you is to give him his space, and let him come to you. The worst ... | |
| how to deal with a breakup and wanting to get back together? | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I were together for almost 2 years. We talked about marriage,kids, and our future ... A: Well first off thats good that you have given him his space because by not doing so you'd only be ... | |
| What Should I Do? | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: we started dating when i was 17 he was 18 now im 20 n hes 21.. we broke up about a week ago n 2day ... A: Yes its quite normal for a guy his age to not want to settle down right now. But staying friends is ... | |
| Should I break up? | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: Julie, first of all a big thank you for your time.. This is my problem.. Me and my bf are going ... A: Well I don't think its fair of him to be allowed to do the virtual chat with girls and you can't ... | |
| Moving On | 3/1/2009 |
| Q: I was with a guy for 2 and a half years before we ended on reasonably good terms. The main reason ... A: Its understandable that your are bitter but you have to learn to let it go. You have to start with ... | |
| Heartbroken | 3/1/2009 |
| Q: Six days ago, I lost someone I love. We lived together for almost two years, until he eventually had ... A: Oh trust me I know it all too well, people say time heals all but really when your going through it, ... | |
| Terribly hurt | 2/28/2009 |
| Q: I really hope you can help me. I don't have much friends and at this moment I need one. My live in ... A: To answer your question, no that is not a form of abuse what you were doing. The real silent ... | |
| Contact with ex a little too soon | 2/27/2009 |
| Q: First off i want to thank you for your time and input on this. A little background: I had been ... A: Wow honestly sounds like something VERY similar I just went through myself!! Same exact story... I ... | |
| hey | 2/27/2009 |
| Q: my boy friend of 3 1/2 years broke up with me. He told me that it was different. I layed on the ... A: Your ex sure is going through a lot and unfortunatly he needs to get some sort of help or go see a ... | |
| break up | 2/26/2009 |
| Q: I just found out that my B/F of 3 yrs. has his profile on a dating service. He recieved several ... A: I think that was well written...I couldn't have done it better myself. Do you two work together? If ... | |
| confused | 2/26/2009 |
| Q: i have been with my boyfriend for 10 months, we met while i was in an abusive relationship with my ... A: Unfortunatly there could be any number of reasons why he left..he could have a fear of commitment so ... | |
| break up | 2/25/2009 |
| Q: I just found out that my B/F of 3 yrs. has his profile on a dating service. He recieved several ... A: Sorry you are going through this, that must be very hard.. It doesn't sound like he wants to fess up ... | |
| boy problems | 2/24/2009 |
| Q: these two guys like me & one of them wants to no why i like the other guy & not him. he also wants ... A: I would just tell the truth but if telling the truth might hurt him tell him that you just feel more ... | |
| hey | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: my boy friend of 3 1/2 years broke up with me. He told me that it was different. I layed on the ... A: Guys are better at hiding their feelings than we are trust me...going thru that myself..seems like ... | |
| confused-where do i go from here | 2/22/2009 |
| Q: I dated this girl for about a year, pretty much all throughout our senior year of high school. we ... A: Oh trust me I know what your going thru. My ex and I broke up and he still loves me a lot and I love ... | |
| confused-where do i go from here | 2/21/2009 |
| Q: I dated this girl for about a year, pretty much all throughout our senior year of high school. we ... A: This girl does sound like she loves you but just doesn't want to be with you at this time. She is ... | |
| Break up with a co-worker | 2/21/2009 |
| Q: I'm 41 years old and in April 2008 I became involved with a 23 year old co- worker as we were out of ... A: Your not in a good situation at all. I can sort of relate as I got involved with someone at work and ... | |
| Breakups | 2/18/2009 |
| Q: My 'ex' boyfriend (27yrs old) and I (25 yrs old) were together for nearly 3 years. We always had our ... A: Sounds like he is extremely confused and conflicted right now. I'm sure he really misses you and ... | |
| will he come back! | 2/18/2009 |
| Q: About 3 months ago, I met am man I thought was wonderful.After 20 years of marriage and 2 kids, he ... A: So are you looking for a relationship with this man? If so you need to be honest with him as he's ... | |
| Moving on | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: Recently my boyfriend and I broke up, well now, ex-boyfriend to get technical. It's been really ... A: Well he probably moved on in the sense that some people just deal with break ups by sleeping with ... | |
| How can i confront my ex? | 2/15/2009 |
| Q: Hopefully, you can help me before I confront my ex this Thursday. My ex an I broke up with no hard ... A: I would just simply tell him that you want to move on but need closure and it would help if he could ... | |
| cant stand it | 2/13/2009 |
| Q: heres wats happening me and my boyfriend Daniel,age 13, have been together for 9 months and just ... A: If I were you I'd stay single...your too young to get bound down with someone right now. Enjoy ... | |
| Broken hearted =/ | 2/12/2009 |
| Q: Ok I'm a 17 yr old girl I have been with this boy for two yrs. At first he was perfect. He talked ... A: I think you are making the right decision. It sounds like you don't have much of a choice right now ... | |
| Boyfriend problems? | 2/10/2009 |
| Q: This is Rebecca and Ive been having this problem with my boyfriend. Im not going 2 say any namezz. ... A: Unfortunatly being with someone with a drug addiction the chances are good that this relationship ... | |
| broken heart | 10/21/2006 |
| Q: how can i deal with this I broke up with my love today and I feel so bad i don't know what to do, I ... A: When you first break up with someone, no matter who does the breaking up, its always going to be ... | |
| thank you | 10/20/2006 |
| Q: ------------------------------------------- The text above is a follow-up to ... thank you for the ... A: I think its good you were honest with him about your feelings about his lying. Even if you two ... | |
| Hi Julie | 10/20/2006 |
| Q: Hey Julie, My name is Jen and I think that you are the greatest. I have read all your comments back ... A: I know what you mean, can give advice but can't really help ourselves.. I totally know what you are ... | |
| my ex keeps calling | 10/19/2006 |
| Q: So if she broke up with me a month and a half ago why is she still unsure about this relationship? ... A: Thats the thing, we never know whats really going on in someones head..or why they do the things ... | |
| my ex keeps calling | 10/18/2006 |
| Q: First off I am a lesbian. My ex broke up with me a month and a half ago. She basically is a ... A: I think its best you stick to not talking to her..she sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat ... | |
| Staying Break up! | 10/18/2006 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend seems like we break up every other week and this month makes a year since i ... A: Oh I know what you mean..just when you think this is the final straw, they manipulate their way back ... | |
| making him pay | 10/17/2006 |
| Q: my question is ,me and this boy was only friends ,but we started having feels for one nother ,he ... A: I would have a talk with him first and ask him about that, because you can't always go by what other ... | |
| I want to get back with my ex girlfriend | 10/17/2006 |
| Q: . i want to know how to react around her because i dont want to hurt her but i also dont want to ... A: You need to move on..because this isn't healthy for you at all. Trust me, if she really likes you, ... | |
| how to get past my breakup | 10/16/2006 |
| Q: my name is mike and i am having trouble with a breakup. it's been 3 months now and i am still in ... A: It does hurt when you find out someones seeing someone new, I went through this also with my ex who ... | |
| Should I stay broken up this time? | 10/15/2006 |
| Q: I was engaged to my ex for the past 3 1/2 yrs. We were together for 4 yrs. Everything had moved on ... A: If a relationship is so much trouble, its really not worth it! The only thing that will happen is a ... | |
| Bad Breakup | 10/14/2006 |
| Q: I just recently (meaning 3 days ago) broke up with my boyfriend of a year. I made this choice for ... A: I too was in a situation like yours...and even though my ex was extremely verbally abusive and ... | |
| what's the Jekyll & Hyde routine about?? | 10/14/2006 |
| Q: ...i'm a 34 year old Mom of 2 kids and recently my finacee and I split up much to my shock. Yadda ... A: Yep my ex was like that too. They hate taking any responsibility for any wrong doing on their part. ... | |
| I want to get back with my ex girlfriend | 10/13/2006 |
| Q: How can i get her back? There was this girl i started talking to about 9 months ago. She had just ... A: Heres the thing, while she still has unresolved feelings for her ex, she will never really be able ... | |
| How can i get over her??? | 10/12/2006 |
| Q: I know that i am only 16 and she is 14 and she said that she needed to have time so that she could ... A: Break ups are very hard, one of the most painful experiences to go through, and what you are feeling ... | |
| SHOULD I MOVE ON?? | 10/11/2006 |
| Q: JULIE, YOU SAID I SHOULD NOT CALL HER, BUT THAT'S THE THING...I NEVER CALL HER. SHE CALLS ME ... A: ! Well, when I break up with any ex I still go to them with my problems you know why? Because when ... | |
| Was I only his rebound | 10/10/2006 |
| Q: I met this guy two months after his girlfriend of 4 years broke up with him. We dated for a few ... A: I was totally in his situation as well, I broke up with someone after four years, met a guy two and ... | |
| what do you think? | 10/10/2006 |
| Q: i was dating this guy for 2mos and broke it off in August he never called or anything just let it be ... A: I think he is probably wondering why you broke up with him and if maybe theres a chance you two can ... | |
| SHOULD I MOVE ON?? | 10/9/2006 |
| Q: MY GIRLFRIEND AND I HAVE BEEN BROKEN UP FOR ABOUT A MONTH NOW. WE HAD A FALLING OUT WHEN I COULDN'T ... A: I would honestly say she is moving on. But it doesn't mean she doesn't love you or miss you..she's ... | |
| I start to cry everytime i think about him | 10/8/2006 |
| Q: My ex-boyfriend and i broke up about a month ago. We had been dating for 2 years and the last 6 ... A: Doesn't sound like things are going your way in either situation..have you and your ex had a chance ... | |
| Should I move on? | 10/8/2006 |
| Q: I was dating this guy. Not for a very long time but I developed STRONG feelings for him. Even though ... A: If I were you I'd let go..he's being extremely selfish in asking you to be his back up in case ... | |
| break-up | 10/7/2006 |
| Q: About a year ago my boyfriend made a huge mistake in our relationship and stole money from my ... A: Well if you believe your boyfriend has learned his lesson and has made positive changes and he's ... | |
| What should I do? | 10/7/2006 |
| Q: Me and my ex girlfriend broke up and now she has a new boyfriend. It made me alittle jealous and i ... A: You need to be honest with your girlfriend, its not fair to stay with her if you have feelings for ... | |
| Break-up | 10/6/2006 |
| Q: I have only been in one serious realtionship. It lasted about 5 years. It started in high school ... A: Everyone is different with how they move on...some people get over someone fast and others get over ... | |
| Moving on | 10/3/2006 |
| Q: and i'm 15 years old...right now i am in alot of pain.Today my girlfriend broke up with me.The part ... A: Break ups are really hard, believe me, I know...Been there..a few times actually. The thing is, ... | |
| My boyfriend says he fell out of love | 10/3/2006 |
| Q: Julie. I will hide behind the name Derailed, a 26 year old male in suburban california who recently ... A: Unfortunatly theres nothing you or anyone else in a break up situation can do to change someone ... | |
| open relationship | 8/31/2006 |
| Q: My girfriend of 4 years just recently decided out of the blue that we needed to take a break. She ... A: Well theres unfortunatly no real way of knowing why she broke up with you and whether or not you two ... | |
| help moi | 8/31/2006 |
| Q: im only 17 n was goin with my first serious bf for just under a year, hes 19 and has had a couple of ... A: Well to be honest, sleeping with him is going to affect you without you realizing it anyways, ... | |
| Losing Three Years Thanks to Lying | 8/30/2006 |
| Q: I am going to try to keep this neutral, but I apologize in advance for the emotion and the novella ... A: I understand your concern but unfortunatly even if you warn him he most likely won't listen, he'll ... | |
| Totally Confused.... | 8/30/2006 |
| Q: I have had the best relationship of my life in the last year and a few months. Now, I am in the ... A: It does sound like she's got some issues she needs to work out, she doesn't sound like she's putting ... | |
| text message break up | 8/29/2006 |
| Q: It is not that I actually mind, but I am 36 and my friend is 26. I saw all the signs and asked him ... A: Well its not whether 26 year olds do it or not, I have known 26 year old males who do not act like ... | |
| i broke up with a guy i loved | 8/29/2006 |
| Q: ok, you might need some backround information. Im 17 and im pregnant. When the guy found out he ... A: Sounds like he's not ready for the responsibility of having a child around..so he doesn't know how ... | |
| should i try to get her back? | 8/28/2006 |
| Q: I broke up with my girlfriend about 9 months ago.. throughout the relationship i didn't really ... A: Its normal to not be completely over an ex even 9 months later, but just because you can't stop ... | |
| I can't let go | 8/27/2006 |
| Q: Me and ex boyfriend or ex lover or whatever you want to call him have been doing whatever you want ... A: I was in your similar situation, boyfriend whose mean, boyfriend that started seeing someone else, ... | |
| Boyfriend to College | 8/26/2006 |
| Q: I dont normally consult in complete strangers for answers about my relationships, but my friends are ... A: I think a break would be stressful for you, I know it would be for me, because you'd be in ... | |
| How to get my gf back after 1 year and a half of dating | 8/26/2006 |
| Q: my Girlfriend broke up with me at a football game yesterday and said that we can still be friends ... A: Unfortunatly theres nothing you can do to get her back. If you have any chance of getting her back ... | |
| Why? | 8/24/2006 |
| Q: I never questioned our future together b/c it just made sense and felt right. Things started to ... A: Sorry you are going through this..obviously your ex boyfriend has been having doubts about your ... | |
| Why a | 8/24/2006 |
| Q: I have been dating this girl for 5 years. We get along great, have a lot of fun when we do things, ... A: Whether or not this can be fixed is entirely up to her...theres no way to tell why she wants her ... | |
| break up | 8/21/2006 |
| Q: heloo, well my girl friend just broke up with me.I'm a muisician so I travel alot'and before I ... A: People can love someone and want to be with them but sometimes its just not possible because of ... | |
| Break up or not | 8/21/2006 |
| Q: I have been with my awesome girlfriend for nearly 6 years, its both our first long term ... A: I would have a talk with her and see how she feels about your busy life..if she's happy with the way ... | |
| best but worst relationship | 8/18/2006 |
| Q: Julie, I just broke up with a girl that I have been with since I was about 16. Together for 3.5 ... A: This is definitly an unhealthy relationship and it won't change, she won't change. She knows by now ... | |
| Time and Space | 8/17/2006 |
| Q: My Girlfriend and I have just broken up. It's been a week today. Last year we had an abortion, ... A: No the best thing to do is give her space..of course the break up is hard on both of you, but its ... | |
| Are we breaking up? | 8/17/2006 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 5 1/2 years. Our relationship was fantastic until this summer. We ... A: It doesn't sound like your boyfriend wants you guys to be together right now...I would not call or ... | |
| breaking up, hope for the future with her.. | 8/16/2006 |
| Q: Previous Question hi, i was with this girl for 6 months, and she broke up with me last week. she ... A: Unfortunatly theres nothing you can do to make her like you enough...feelings are usually cut and ... | |
| Breakup | 8/15/2006 |
| Q: I was going with my girlfriend for 3 years and while it wasn't always easy going we had some good ... A: Oh how I hate it when an ex can just turn their emotions off like a switch when they were so in love ... | |
| break up | 8/13/2006 |
| Q: My ex and i broke up about 2 days ago should i stop talking to him or should we be friends? should ... A: If being friend with him is painful then yes I would say stop talking to him. Anyone whose ever gone ... | |
| Break-Up | 8/10/2006 |
| Q: I am desperate for any assistance. I met a guy, 2.5 years ago in my home country. He was working ... A: It sure sounds like he has abandonment issues and maybe he does want you back but at the same time ... | |
| breaking up .. | 8/8/2006 |
| Q: i was with this girl for 6 months, and she broke up with me last week. she basically said that she ... A: Sounds to me like she's playing games...if she really liked you she'd know. But she obviously wants ... | |
| How to get over this anger? | 8/7/2006 |
| Q: Me and my gf for 2 years ended things a few weeks ago. She broke it off with me but I knew things ... A: Your feelings are completely normal..I totally understand..I went thru this also with an ex, I ... | |
| troubled relationship | 8/6/2006 |
| Q: Julie, My boyfriend and I have been on and off for 4 years. we dated in high school for 2 and then ... A: Sounds like you have outgrown this relationship...thing is once a relationship is outgrown, and you ... | |
| Confused and need advice FAST. | 8/3/2006 |
| Q: All right, so I've been dating one of my best friends (male) for almost a week now, but he's going ... A: I would not try to convince him to stick with the relationship, he'll just end up getting more ... | |
| getting over a relationship i knew wouldnt work | 8/2/2006 |
| Q: i was involved with a girl who had a child which from the get-go i knew would be a problem...i tried ... A: It sounds to me like you still care about her but yet you realize you can't be with her! I know ... | |
| Re: Why do I feel so weak? | 8/2/2006 |
| Q: Julie, I broke up with my boy of 3 years three days ago. I hurt him badly. He has never cried in ... A: . No matter who does the breaking up and for what reasons, its still going to be very painful. And ... | |
| What do I do? | 7/31/2006 |
| Q: I dated a girl for over a year... Really Beautifull girl. Shes 18 I'm 21. I have never been so happy ... A: I don't think you are ready to be in a relationship, even if you do like your ex a lot..and going ... | |
| Relationship Break Up & Love | 7/29/2006 |
| Q: 1. What is cheating? My girlfriend slept in the same bed with my friend while knowing i would be ... A: .. You ask what cheating is..usually people percieve cheating to be different things. Some think ... | |
| Y IS HE IGNORING ME | 7/28/2006 |
| Q: my boyfren and i broke up about one week ago..he sed we shud remain frens..i sed ok..but now he is ... A: There is many reasons why he could be ignoring you but obviously he just wants to move on...and the ... | |
| I am confused about my relationship | 7/27/2006 |
| Q: I ve been dating this girl for over 3 months,and I have fallen for this girl really bad I cant bee ... A: You and your girlfriend need to have a talk with each other about where things stand in your ... | |
| break-up | 7/26/2006 |
| Q: ok. it isnt much that i have a question. its more that im just hurt and lost and i need some advice ... A: .. Yup break ups are tough, thats forsure. I saw red flags as soon as you said this guy does a lot ... | |
| wat to do | 7/26/2006 |
| Q: hey i hav been wif my girl for about 4 months n i really liked her alot. Then last night she said we ... A: Break ups really are tough..I know exactly what you are going through and its normal..not being able ... | |
| g/f needs space | 7/23/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend of 6 months told me last week that she wanted to take a break. the thing i dont get is ... A: Thats tough!! Usually when people say they need their space, they really want to break up ... | |
| Should I break up with him? | 7/22/2006 |
| Q: 3 days before Christmas, this last year, I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me by pretending ... A: Unfortunatly when someone cheats, it takes a long time to get over something like that. Do you trust ... | |
| how can i deal with my break up | 7/20/2006 |
| Q: i was going out with this guy we lasted a year and 9 months. we were always there for each other ... A: Sorry to hear this has happened to you...unfortunatly people do move on, even if we still love them ... | |
How to Breakup/Deal With Break Ups
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Julie
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I can answer questions about break ups, and how to move on..I've been through a few of them myself and have learned what to do and what not to do in order to heal, move on, or try to get someone back. No guarantees as each individual is different but I can do my best to help!!
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I am a good listener and have helped friends get through break ups, I also have gone through a few myself and know how hard it is..if you just need to vent or need advice, feel free to ask
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