Expert: Julie - 10/20/2006

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thank you for the answer ,now here is another one ,when i ask him he told me the same thing you said we are not in a relationship so it should not matter , but i told him its the point you lied to me about her ,but he called me telling me he going to do any thing for us to talk , but he wanted to come over today but i told him no ,because that would make him feel its alright to lie and come over when ever he want , but now he said he was going to call me but never did ,i don't know what to say rite now to him ,its just i want him to be happy ,but i feel like he do like me , but its hurt when he don't tell me noting , what to do give up ,work it out , are talk to him ?
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my question is ,me and this boy was only friends ,but we started having feels for one nother ,he told me he want break my heart ,i told him i didn't want to talk to him again ,but he wanted me to give him a second chance ,so i did and last night he told my friend he was feeling somebody else ,but he don't know i know he said it , what should i do leave him alone or contuine talking to him .we did have sex ,but i feel friends don't do things like that .
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I would have a talk with him first and ask him about that, because you can't always go by what other people say..and its not like you two were in a relationship together when he started liking someone else...and it sounds like he really likes you more than her or he'd have gone for her instead..

Good luck..Julie

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I think its good you were honest with him about your feelings about his lying. Even if you two aren't in a relationship it still feels like a betrayal when someone lies. I would have a talk with him and let him know that if you two are gonna have any kind of relationship even if it is friendship, he needs to be honest with you..honesty isn't something only for people going out but for friends also, I'd explain that to him. Lying hurts and makes you feel like what else they are hiding.

Good luck..Julie