Expert: Julie - 10/10/2006

Question
I met this guy two months after his girlfriend of 4 years broke up with him. We dated for a few months before he moved away for work. A month after he moved he asked me to move up with him. A week later I told him I would. Two weeks after that he was different towards me and I had a feeling that something was troubling him, so I asked him.  He said that he was having second thoughts about me moving up with him. He has always been with someone since has was a teenager and now he is in his 20's.  He has never been alone and now he wanted to be to see what he wants to do with his life.  He dont know if he wanted to stay where he is now he might move back.  I asked him if there was someone else and he said no because wants to be alone to figure things out.  He said that he is still interested, he likes me alot and care cares about me alot. But still wanted to be alone. I think that he needs to think about some things in his life, he is right about that. But I was wondering if I was only his rebound in the first place? He sweet talked me. He never said any lame lines with me that other guys do. I really like him. what should I do? I know I should move on. What do you realy think about the whole sisuation. please help me

Answer
I was totally in his situation as well, I broke up with someone after four years, met a guy two and a half months later, really liked him but pushed him away because I just needed time to be alone and figure out what I really wanted.
I don't think theres anyone else in his life, I think he's just confused right now..coming out of a four year relationship is hard on anybody. I too let this guy go that I really liked because I too have been in relationship after relationship and I decided right now is the time to be alone. I think a lot of people in this situation go through that.

It sounds bad but of course its a rebound situation but it doesn't mean he doesn't genuinely care about you, it sounds like he really does.

I think for now you should give him his space and try to move on, but it doesn't mean he won't come around in time..he just needs some time to figure things out..and he will..

Good luck...Julie