Expert: Julie - 8/31/2006

Question
My girfriend of 4 years just recently decided out of the blue that we needed to take a break.  She couldn't tell me why or what started it or
how long the break should be.  The day before the break I was shopping for a wedding ring and as far as I knew everything was fine.  This was
my first real girlfriend and I had no idea how to take it.  We had gotten along so well for a very long time and I was completely shocked.  
Unfortunately I took the wrong road and didnt give her the space she asked for and instead tried to pick her brain to find the problem, this only made things worse.  This climaxed with a conversation between me and her and her best friend.  We decided that we should see other people and start an open relationship.  How should I take this and is there anyway to get over her so that I can sleep and eat again.  I loved her more than life itself and was completely blind sided by the whole situation.  
Is there any chance of us getting back together.  We have never had an argument or major disagreement, everything was pretty much storybook up until about two weeks ago.  Any idea what could provoke this or any
ways to fix it?  And what are the chances of us getting back together?

Answer
Well theres unfortunatly no real way of knowing why she broke up with you and whether or not you two will get back together. But I guarantee you won't get her back if you continue to try to get answers from her or try getting her back. If you do have a chance, its to back off for now..Give her space and let her have time.
I know its hard and its totally normal to have a hard time sleeping and eating but it does get better in time, I'm sure you've heard that before, hard to believe but its true.

Anyways, if you want to move on quicker the best thing is not to see her or go for the open relationship. She's just most likely keeping you around just in case things don't work out for her..

I broke up with two guys I loved..and the one I cut off contact with (no calls, no seeing him etc) was the one I got over so much faster than the one I kept in touch with as friends. Trust me, it works.

Good luck...Julie