Expert: Julie - 10/17/2006

Question
Thanks A LOT Julie for tha help..

i want to know how to react around her because i dont want to hurt her but i also dont want to feel unwanted because I really like her. Also if i should move on and take the risk that she might forget about me
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How can i get her back?
There was this girl  i started talking to about 9 months ago. She had just broken up with her ex boyfriend who was with her for about 2 and a half years. We started to get close but she would avoid me we had done things together about a month after her break up but she didnt want to start a relationship. So we just talked afterwards and i told her i realy love her. Then i asked her out sand she was confused but then she accepted a day or two later. We started dating and it lasted a about 2 weeks. She told me that she had feelings for her ex and she said she thinks she still loves him. After our breakup i did not talk to  her for about 2 days. Then i poured mt heart out too her and she was crying and she said that does not know if we can be together again. Then i asked her the next day and she said that her and her ex are just friends. So i asked her if they were gonna get together andd she said she does not know and that she does'nt know if me and her might get back together. I really need help i tell her i luvv her and she does the same. I know she really wants to talk t me but i dont know if we can get back together. But the truth is I LOVE HER.plzzzz help me.

Answer -
Heres the thing, while she still has unresolved feelings for her ex, she will never really be able to be with you..she probably does like you and does enjoy the attention she's recieving but she still has strong feelings for her ex so she won't be able to be with you right now.

If I were you I'd give her space and if she ever decides she really is over her ex and wants to be with you, then she'll call you. But right now, especially since she is still even with him even as friends, its unlikely she'll be able to give you what you want.

You can be there for her as a friend but I wouldn't push the issue anymore. She sounds really confused where her ex is concerned and needs time to figure things out.

Good luck...Julie

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You need to move on..because this isn't healthy for you at all. Trust me, if she really likes you, she won't forget about you..maybe if you take this time apart, she will have a chance to realize whether or not you are what she wants right now..it might take some time..but its probably for the best.

I know what its like to be with an ex you still care about and have someone else who likes you..and be confused about it. Thing is because she's been with him for so long and has strong feelings for him she's going to do what she can to resolve things with him before she can move on with you.