Expert: Julie - 10/12/2006

Question
Hello today my girlfriend of 2 years has broken up with me. I know that i am only 16 and she is 14 and she said that she needed to have time so that she could see what else is out there. I understand this but it just kills me inside. I thought she was the one and only i could see me marring her and now everytime i think about her i cry and im tired of this happening all the time. If u can give me a answer u dotn know how much i would apprecaite it.

Rodney Bailey

Answer
Break ups are very hard, one of the most painful experiences to go through, and what you are feeling is completely normal. I went thru this recently about three months ago too, I didn't think I'd ever like anyone ever again and I'd cry everytime I thought of him..I could barely make it through a day. But I can promise you that as time goes on it DOES get better! It may not feel like it though, but it really does.
What helped me was rebuilding a new life for myself..in other words I got in touch with my friends again, started going out and even though at first I didn't really have fun, just going out at least helped a little. But then I started finding out I was enjoying myself and having fun!
What you need to do is fill in the time you spent with her because theres that empty time there where you and her hung out. Find something else to do to fill in that void.

And another thing that helps is try your best to not talk to her as much, and try not to see her, it keeps things fresh even though at first it just makes you feel better but it won't help you move on or heal.

Good luck...Julie