Expert: John Willemsens aka Advayavadananda - 11/11/2008

Question
I am interested in Buddhism but very much a beginner having only read a few books and attended a few workshops.
Having discovered my husbands affair i must admit that my mind went into a meltdown with angry and strange thoughts. A few weeks have now passed and I seem to be finding some peace and I have started to look at things in a more logical way but sometimes the ego keeps getting in the way i.e how could he do this to ME, I am fool to stay, if I dont punish him enough this will happen again. I realise that these thoughts do not help and i am trying to rely on a happy mind but sometimes it all gets confused. Its easy to have a happy mind when things are going well and i know that millions of people are in a much worse situation than myself. I once had an affair many years ago and was so greatful that we worked it out, could this be karma?
Any advice on how to think more clearly, can our marriage be saved, does it matter if its saved or not and how dare i judge when I once did the same myself would help.
Kind regards
Alex

Answer
Hello Alex,

What do you mean that you are "interested" in Buddhism? Are you familiar with what Advayavada Buddhism has to say about marriage? Have you visited the Advayavada Buddhism website and perused its contents, including the Questions and Answers section?

Kind regards,

Advayavadananda.