Expert: Justin Choo - 2/20/2009

Question
QUESTION: Hello Justin!
I think my friend is having an affair with another man.I do not think her husband knows. She is not currently in the country b/c of a job( I am with her).  She has been acting restless and being very very secretive and sneaky. The energy in our apartment is changing and its very disruptive. I see her out with a guy often and she refuses to introduce to me. Anyway just wondering your thoughts on this.

ANSWER: Hi mgk,

"I think my friend is having an affair with another man.I do not think her husband knows."

This is what you "think".

I don't know how to comment simply I do not know for sure, and it is not my business.

Take care.

Justin Choo

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QUESTION: it's more about the changes in the apt , the behaviers, rather than what she is doing on the side. Its difficult for me to live there with the changes she made in her life b/c in some way they impact me on a daily basis. The lease is not up till May and I need to find a preservation method till than. ( that is my real question - hpw to stay 'preserved' and not judge, and offer her compassion.) Thank you kindly.

Answer
Hi mgk,

It is always very difficult to live together with others. On the other scale of things, it is always very lonely to live alone.  Whichever way there are always problems.  I really could not offer you any effective advice, as from my experience it is easier said than done.

I assume you do not have any control/influence on this person.  So the only option is to live through the months until you can find another place to live.

I am sorry I really don't want to give you stereo-typed advice that is not going to work.

Regards.

Justin Choo