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I just went through a difficult talk with my daughter.  Unfortunately things were not resolved like I had wished.  There is a lot of hurt and I would like to find a meditation that would enable healing to come and let go of that hurt.
Thank you for your willingness to help!!!

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Hi Gwyneth,

Buddhist meditation is actually for training the mind to see the real perspective of the world so that with that understanding, the person is more able to live in peace and contentment amidst life's problems.  Buddhist meditation per se is not some tool that can help you "let go of hurt".

However with the understanding of the teachings of the Buddha, and earnest meditation practice, the person may be able to resolve or neutralize many problems.  I don't know how familiar you are with Buddhism.  The stereotyped answer would be to do Metta meditation, meditation of goodwill and loving kindness, especially towards the person concerned.  

To be more practical, I think you have first to realize that having problems are quite "normal" in life.  Then you set about trying to solve them in the best manner you can.  

Take care.

Justin Choo

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When in doubt seek it out. All your questions will be answered, and you may not have to agree with the answers. Such is the beauty of Buddhism. You are free to decide. I follow the Theravada tradition, and have been studying Buddhism for more than 40 years. Please view my profile for more details. I have answered more than 1500 questions since joining this category. You may like to give me the honor to answer your question.

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I was brought up in the 50's as a Buddhist. For the past 40 years I have read numerous books on Buddhism and listened to numerous talks on Buddhism by well-respected and learned monks and lay teachers. I conduct Buddhist classes for parents of Sunday School children in a Theravada Buddhist Temple. My teacher was the late Chief Reverend, The Ven. K Sri Dhammananda of The Brickfields Buddhist Mahavihara, Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. You can view the relevent website in memory of my revered late teacher @ http://www.ksridhammananda.com

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I am a life member of the Buddhist Missionary Society Malaysia.

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YOU ARE INVITED TO VISIT MY BLOG @ http://lifeislikethat999.blogspot.com/ Published a book called "The Rainbow And The Treasure". It is a compilation of extracts from various sources to introduce Buddhism to beginners. (Currently out of print)

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Bachelor of Commerce And Administration, Victoria University Of Wellington, NZ.(1974)

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