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Hello,
I would like some Buddhist advice on how one should handle the following situation according to Buddhist principles:
There is an outstandingly beautiful girl living in Russia and a guy living in Germany. The Russian girl sees this guy in a photo and is very interested in him. But there's a problem- he already has a girlfriend.  So, this Russian girl decides that she would just like to get to know him, just to be hist friend. She is willing to travel to Germany to meet him but she fears that due to her gorgeous beauty, there is a possibility of him leaving his existing girlfriend for her. She has no intention on breaking them up. She only wants to be his friend, but she knows a breakup is possible if he gets to know her. According to Buddhism, what should she do?

Thanks a lot for the help. (This question is public but please hide my name. Thank you)

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Hi A...,

I'm sorry I can't hide your name.  The programme does not have such feature.

Buddhism is about inner peace and contentment.  Your question is more appropriate for "Ask Auntie Jane" column.

Since you are here, I'll try to be "Auntie Jane".  Tell the Russian girl to leave the German man alone.  

And you, mind your own business!!  (Just joking!)

Take care.

Justin Choo

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When in doubt seek it out. All your questions will be answered, and you may not have to agree with the answers. Such is the beauty of Buddhism. You are free to decide. I follow the Theravada tradition, and have been studying Buddhism for more than 40 years. Please view my profile for more details. I have answered more than 1500 questions since joining this category. You may like to give me the honor to answer your question.

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I was brought up in the 50's as a Buddhist. For the past 40 years I have read numerous books on Buddhism and listened to numerous talks on Buddhism by well-respected and learned monks and lay teachers. I conduct Buddhist classes for parents of Sunday School children in a Theravada Buddhist Temple. My teacher was the late Chief Reverend, The Ven. K Sri Dhammananda of The Brickfields Buddhist Mahavihara, Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. You can view the relevent website in memory of my revered late teacher @ http://www.ksridhammananda.com

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I am a life member of the Buddhist Missionary Society Malaysia.

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YOU ARE INVITED TO VISIT MY BLOG @ http://lifeislikethat999.blogspot.com/ Published a book called "The Rainbow And The Treasure". It is a compilation of extracts from various sources to introduce Buddhism to beginners. (Currently out of print)

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Bachelor of Commerce And Administration, Victoria University Of Wellington, NZ.(1974)

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