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I've been raised up in a Buddhist household, but I find it difficult to understand certain aspects of Buddhist practice. I would like to understand happiness and how I can achieve it in my own life.
I deal constantly with so much sadness, and I wish to find ways to resolve this through Buddhist practice or way of thinking.

So, how is happiness attain in Buddhism? How can I get rid of sadness?

Thank you

Dear Jacqueline,

Thank you for the opportunity to answer your question.

Happiness in Buddhism is an interesting thing. The Buddha taught that happiness comes from understanding the truths of this world. Once we understand the truths - and rules, laws and the way things work, we will cease to have false expectations.

It is these expectations that give us temporary happiness followed by long lasting suffering. It makes us hope and believe in impermanent things, that end with us disappointed.

Therefore, by understanding the impermanence of all things, we see how the world works. Once we understand that, we can live more moderately, which is the key.

Moderation is the key in all things. By eating too much, even if it is tasty at the moment and brings us happiness, it also will lead to much suffering - ridicule from others, physical health problems, emotional problems. Therefore, instead of looking for the impermanent happiness which is food taste, we should focus on the longer happiness of taking the best care of our bodies and maintaining the best health we can - this will lead to confidence, health and praise from others.

In addition, all suffering comes from our minds. That is, we believe this or that, and therefore when something happens that contradicts our beliefs, suffering occurs. This is not become the external thing happened, but rather because we held an incorrect belief.

For example, if we believe all people are kind and generous, when we are cheated and scammed, we are very sad. However, the people who cheat and scam have always been out there, it is just us who held that belief that they weren't.

I hope I have answered your questions, feel free to ask for more clarification if you need it.



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