Bulimia/Eating Disorders/whats wrong with me

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Hi, Firstly, I am male, and 21 years old.
Throughout my teens (and currently) I have always had a problem with food, I hate my body, I always have. When I got really down I used to throw up after a meal, when I was 17-19 this used to happen a couple of times a week. My family doesn't know, if they did they haven't said anything about it. Anyway after a while I stopped, I don't know why, nothing changed. Now I've started again, but I'm also beginning to cut myself as well. Whats wrong with me? I'm told repeatively that its something I will grow out off, or at one point its "unmanly" and I should just deal with it.
Now I don't know what to do... I'm confused, alone and tired.
Basically what I'm asking, is whats wrong with me?

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Jeannie Rust, PhD
Jeannie Rust, PhD  
Dear Peter,

First of all, you are NOT unmanly!  You will not grow out of this!

You are reacting to stress in your life by having a problem with food and also the cutting.  Sometimes people cut to let themselves know that they can still feel or that they can feel pain?  I don't know in your case.

However, this is something that you can get help with!  Growing up hating your body and purging is not normal but is a coping reaction to other events or possibly even some trauma in your life.

I'm glad that you're 21 because now you can see a counselor or therapist without the permission of your parents.  Do you live in London?

If so, I know a fabulous therapist there.  Are you on National Health yet?

Let's figure out some way of getting you the help you need.  You don't have to live like this any longer!!

Please keep in touch and let me know how you do!!

Warmly,
Jeanne Rust, PhD
CEO/Founder
Mirasol
www.mirasol.net
www.edrecovery.com

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Jeanne Rust, PhD

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I have been treating eating disorders for over 25 years and I have a doctorate in clinical psychology. I am an expert in anorexia, bulimia and binge eating disorders and in co-occurring disorders as well -- depression, anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder, etc. I was the official eating disorder therapist for the University of Arizona athletic department and love working with girls and women of all ages! 12 years ago I started my own treatment centers in Arizona where we treat adolescents and adults. I love working with people and have been helping people online since 1994. My hearts go out to the people out there who are unable to find help, who aren't sure whether they need help, and who don't have much of an understanding of the terrible consequences, emotionally and physically, that go hand in hand with the eating disorder. I view eating disorders as coping mechanisms that people use when they are under stress. I believe that eating disorders most times have many similarities whether it is anorexia, bulimia, or binge eating. The good news is that people can heal from an eating disorder and learn to create the lives they would like to live.

Experience

I have been treating eating disorders for almost 23 years. I have been in private practice as well as running my own treatment program, Mirasol. I believe that people can be cured from their eating disorders -- that they are not always recovering. I am knowledgeable about co-occurring disorders as well -- depression, anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder, etc. I was the official eating disorder therapist for the University of Arizona athletic department and love working with girls and women of all ages!

Organizations
International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals, Academy of Eating Disorders

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PhD in Clinical Psychology

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