Business Communication/My Rude Professor


I'm a junior in college, and as a science major, I work on two research projects, each with a different professor. I am equally devoted to each, and I have purposefully divided my time and energy equally among both. I love both projects and they are both succeeding, but one of my professors continually makes remarks that belittle my other research. I applied for a summer stipend for my other project and received the grant, and rather than being happy for me, he told me I needed to "get my priorities in order", and has been very condescending about it. His tone and nonverbals make his position very clear that he doesn't like this arrangement. It seems to be everyone who is working with these two professors has this issue. He seems insecure about how many researchers he has, and how easily this comes to my other professor. I still have to take classes with him, and I don't want to have bad blood between us. I love my research with him, and I want it to continue, I just want him to respect all of my work, not only what I do for him. How do I approach this issue?

Dear Cassara,

You describe a difficult, but commonplace situation, both in academia and in life. You are clear-sighted enough already to realize that you are not likely to please “Rude Professor” unless you drop your other interests.

My suggestion is that you let go of the need for Rude Professor’s approval of your other projects. Instead, focus on your project with him. Show him your seriousness and ongoing commitment. Continue to do your best work and recognize that you are learning from him about the human side of scientific work. The most gifted scientist may not score well as a warm, supportive human being.

Above all, avoid taking his attitude to heart. You will meet others like this as you move forward in your career. Consider yourself lucky to learn such a valuable lesson so early in your studies.

Good luck!  

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