Expert: Jay Remer - 1/31/2012

Question
I work a government agency. I am not rich, nor am I poor. Rules regulate my agency that state I can not accept a gift that costs more than $25. Generally, the employees at my agency don't give gifts to professional associates. If they do, I am not privy of such behavior.

I am writing you because 2 professional acquaintances with whom I have wonderful working relationships with have received promotions. These promotions come with a substantial salary increase. It is not uncommon for my co-workers to complain that they make so much more than us and somehow are not deserving of their salaries. In their new duties, they will no longer be working with me, though I plan on keeping in touch. I would like to send both of them a handwritten Congratulations card via snail mail with a small token included. I would write something witty. The token would be a $5 gift card from the omni-present coffee retailer with Star in its name. Both do like coffee and as I said I am not in a position to offer a lunch/dinner.

I am planning on moving on from my agency. I will need references other than my supervisor. I am not as effective with networking as I should be. I am shy and awkward, but that is a question for another time. These 2 acquaintances would make great references.

Are the card and token effective networking? I want them to remember me. Is it appropriate? Do have any other ideas?

Answer
Dear Kinda,
I do apologize for not answering this question sooner, but my email has been acting up. In any event, your instincts are spot on. You have a wonderful solution to your plans. I wish you well. If you would like to delve into your shyness or networking issues, feel free to contact me. My email is jay@etiquetteguy.com. I can give you a few pieces of advice that can be helpful. Kind regards, Jay