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I have a 3 old Pomeranian, Ivy, she hasnīt been socialized much as a puppy and her home behavior is what many would describe as "spoiled". A couple days ago, we decided to get a two month old Pom, Halley, because we believed Ivy could use a friend after all these years. The introduction was not appropriate, especially since Ivy stared at her and was deeply infuriated (showed with excessive barking) when any of us attempted to hug or carry Halley. I've noticed Ivy's been sad and has thrown up (probably due to the stress) and it breaks my heart to see her like that. Ivy happens to be on her period as well so itīs difficult for me to tell if sheīs ever going to accept Halley, specially the two of them getting along when the house is empty of humans.

Please, should we get rid of the newcomer or is this normal among this breed? I would hate to see Ivy's personality tone down or be negatively affected just because of a terrible mistake.
Thank you

I think you answered your own question.

Ivy has not been socialized: huge mistake, too late.  Ivy does not need another dog as a companion; she has you.  Suppose your husband brought home another wife as a companion for you?  Hmmmmm?  A bit over the top but you get the picture.

You can't "get rid of" any living thing, you must re-home that puppy ASAP.  Find a very suitable home, not just someone who comes along OR call the BREEDER (I hope you got her from a reliable breeder) and RETURN the puppy TOMORROW.  IF Ivy had been properly socialized to other dogs of all ages and sizes, and IF Ivy were not "spoiled" (treated like a Human child) then you would have chosen a MALE Pom.  ALSO, Ivy needs to be SPAYED.  She is in estrus now?  Count ten weeks from today, call and make an appointment to have her spayed a few weeks later.  Mammary cancer IS A REAL THREAT; my Toy Poodle (I do mammary checks on her same as a Human female does, monthly) came up with a malignant mammary tumor in ONE MONTH: I could feel it, knew what it was.  Have Ivy spayed.

I would leave things as they are.  Ivy is happy and secure, you love her, and when she reaches the end of her life (I hope not for a very long time) you can then, should you choose and in your own time, decide whether or not to acquire another puppy.  Next time, socialize well and use positive reinforcement training.

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I have spent my entire professional life rehabilitating the behavior of the domestic dog and I can answer any question regarding any behavior problem in any breed dog. I have answered more than 5,000 QUESTIONS on this site in the past (almost) eight years. If you are a caring, committed owner and need advice, I'm here for you. I am personally acquainted with my colleagues (Turid Rugaas, Ian Dunbar, etc.) who were members of an elite group in EGroups that I founded: K9Shrinks. THERE ARE NO QUICK FIXES for serious behavioral issues; not only is it unprofessional to offer same, it is also unethical. IF I ASK YOU SUBSEQUENT QUESTIONS, I NEED YOU TO INTERACT WITH ME. More information equals more credible answers and a more successful outcome. If you want ANSWERS THAT WORK, participate in any way I request. I'm quite committed to working on this site for YOUR benefit and the benefit of YOUR DOG. Help me in any way you can.


30 years of solving serious behavior problems in domestic dogs; expert in dog to human aggression; Internet columnist for for 5 years; former radio talk show host, WHPC.FM, Garden City, NY "Bite Back" (1995 through 2000). List owner, international animal behavior experts, Seminar leader: "Operant Conditioning and Learning"; "Aggression in The Domestic Dog"; "Solving Problem Behaviors" -- conducted for various training facilities on Long Island from 1993 through 2000. Former clinical director of "Behavioral Abnormalities" in conjunction with Mark Beckerman, DVM, Hempstead, New York.

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