Expert: Dear Tabbi - 12/9/2008

Question
It appears that when our cat wants us to do something and we don't feed, get up or swat at cat, the cat goes to the bathroom, bedroom or office and turns over the trash cans.  She does not play in trash, just turns over the cans.  Additionally, she'll pull the towels off the banister.  How do we stop this action?

Answer
John,

Cats learn by association and habit. If something she does works to get your attention then she will keep on doing it. It's hard to break the habit, but to do so you need to COMPLETELY ignore her actions. If she isn't getting the your attention from doing something she will eventually quite doing it. It may take some time though. But be prepared that if she is a smart cat, she will come up with another way to get your attention if that one no longer works.
You HAVE to be consistent though. If you react to her behavior just once, then it will no longer work because she will then know that if she keeps it up that EVENTUALLY you will react. I would, at least for now, get small trash cans with fitted lids so if she does knock them over there isn't any mess.

Also try to anticipate her wants before she has to destroy the house to get your attention (smile). Keep a bowl of a good quality dry food always available. That way she can munch when she gets hungry and she won't have to go on a rampage. Don't swat her for trying to tell you something the only way she 'thinks' she can. That will only frustrate her more because to her she is not being a 'bad kitty', she is trying to communicate her needs or wants.

She may be NEEDING your attention too. Give it to her BEFORE she has to 'ask' for it. Maybe getting a 2nd kitty about her age and temperament (after an introduction period) will keep her occupied and keep her from being bored. 2 cats are easier to care for than one because they have each other to play kitty games with, and for comfort and companionship. It takes some of the pressure off of you for attention.

I hope this helps.

Tabbi