Expert: Dear Tabbi - 5/15/2008

Question
I have around a 5 yr old black cat named Glenda who is the most antisocial cat ever.  She never plays with any toys although I have tried many different kinds, doesn't like people, doesn't like to be held or touched very much, hides all day and comes out at night (which I know is common since cats are nocturnal).  She has lived with my mom for 6 months but every time I go over there she runs away and hates me.  She lived with two dogs there and was fine with it.  She would come out and lay around them.  Shes moving back with me soon with my dog and I.  What can I do so she doesnt hate me so much and learns to love her new surroundings and new doggie friend?  I would like her to become more social, what can I do to help her do that?

Answer
Sarah,

If the cat is happy at your mom's then why take her away and put her though the trauma of living with you and a new dog?

It sounds like she was a feral kitten or had a feral parent. That kind of behavior is inbred in them and they probably won't change. If she is a feral then they usually only bond with one person. The distrust and dislike of humans is hereditary.  

You can't force her to like you OR the dog. You should let her be and let her come to you for affection. Get a pet laser light. Hunter type cats usually love those and can't resist. They love to try to catch the 'little red bug' on floors, ceilings, and walls.

Also give her some raw beef rib bones periodically for a treat. Food is a great bribe. I get the butcher to cut them in half. It satisfies the 'fresh kill' urge plus the fibers in the meat cleans their teeth.

There are a lot of articles on socializing feral cats. Use Google and type SOCIALIZING ADULT FERAL CATS.

I hope this helps.
Tabbi