Expert: Sal - 5/21/2007

Question
Dear Sal,

                I want to be a nun rite and I had this friend that liked me and he goes oh we are suppose to be together I said I told you I have a calling to be a nun cant you respect that. The he comes up with this excuse that he says, Were suppose to bring back Jesus I am like that is bogus Mary is the Mother of Jesus she will always be she is the woman in the book of Revelation clothed with the sun and a moon under her feet plus she is giving birth to a male child in heaven not on earth. And he is Roman catholic, I was shocked I said he is totally trying to ask for it he thinks he can change my mind but he even trys to twisted the story of the bible around. I am not a Mary I told him I am just a christian Catholic wanting to go my own way I want to be a nun that is final, then I call him and ask to see if he was home. Right and then his mother picked up and gave me an attitude and says He is not home he is out with his wife! His Wife his mother set a date for them to get married and on top of that he wanted to go out with me uh uh that aint happenin. I may be a religious person and all but that is too much. I say he needs to read the catholic books again. Plus, he trys to get me confused I am so stuck. I even called back a second time around and his mother pickes up the phone again and said hello I said is so and so home she said are you deaf I told you he is with his wife and I said wife are you sure she said yes there set to be married soon. She said I think you called the wrong number I said oh I called the right number thats for sure she said who the heck are you I said I am one of his highschool buddies she said well, sweetheart with an attitude and quote he is with his wife okay bye she hung up I was like Now she didnt just do that to me. Then I want to become a nun and I feel like my whole life is like a highway! It is speeding so fast I dont know where to turn?! To turn. I am stuck at a fork in the road. I want to be a nun but then I would like to date but then I cant even do that my parents treat me like if I was 12 and just started dating I am 21 I told my parents cant I go to a diner and have fun maybe go to the movies or just hang out by edgewater or something there like no! I said mine as well not date because you treat me like if I was 2! I dont know what to do any more I am so fogged up in my mind right now I need a three month vacation to any tropical place with a spa! But I cant do that because my parents treat me like a 2 year old. Just because I am learning disabled. Forgive me if I sound like I am pist off in this message I dont mean to Sal, I just had a very bad day. With a hard life and little friends not even friends. Which sucks, I sometimes wonder why did God let this happen is my calling to become a nun because I suck at dating guys and I cant go out with them like a "normal" girl and quote. I need help! I feel like I hit a bump that was so hard it made me flat. Sort of speak.

Answer
Dear Jacqueline:

You are better off without that guy. Seek the help of a priest of other professional if you feel so depressed. I am not a professional psychologist or someone who can offer the help that you need. I can only pray to the Blessed Virgin for her to intercede with her Son for you.

God Be With You,
Sal