Expert: Tom Schott - 6/4/2005

Question
Helo my name is ryan and i am 15 i am realy woried i maybe a bisexual or
homosexual . I want 2 have a wife someday and kids . And im scared if i get married to a woman I love, god will send me to hell because she will never find out. I cry secretly about it sometimes please give me advice.

Answer
Dear Ryan,

   It is quite possible that you are undergoing a sexual identity struggle that characterizes this stage of life for someone your age. In that case, your fears and concerns are groundless. Time will make them go away.

  But I can tell you this, Ryan, if you are a bi- or homosexual person, that is the way that God chose to make you, and you are loved by him with all the depth of love he has for everyone. No one can escape that love. You have to hold on to that an believe it. Don't worry yourself half to  death about a problem you don't even have yet, and one that is years off for you--if it ends up being a problem at all. I can assure you that when the time comes, you will make the right decision about marriage. God is NOT going to send you to hell for being who you are.