Expert: Tom Schott - 2/22/2007

Question
Dear Tom,

        I have a question out of all the days God spoke to me he came in a white light. An he said My daughter you are mistaken of being called to the religious life you are called to the married life and I will put somebody just like you in your path this man shall be my people and he shall obey the word of God. An this man shall put you in high honor and respect you also not harm you he shall bear the name christian. An he left. I talked to not just the son but abba the father. Was this a true sign of heaven? It was on Valentine's day he spoke to me it was like a whisper in my soul.  I have been depressed too long and I am ready to be happy again and to find that right person in my life.Do you think it was God? That is telling me go and be married. But I will wait until I am 26 or 27 lol. I am too young rite now I will be 21 but I need time to pray with God for guidence and to be holy with him. Until then I should try to be like a true christian but happy and have fun at one point in my life I didnt know what fun was any more. I was mortified by how guys are today and are thinking ungodly and think about adultury and sexual immorality it is wrong to think like that. Should I be careful and date with a catholic guy instead of non catholics. Because I fought with this non catholic about who founded whos church I said Jesus founded catholicism and not lutherans Martin Luther founded your church and that is a man made church! and we fought and fought until each of us were discussed with each other. What to do I need to know am I meant to be with a catholic man and if so is this the right choice for me. Thanks


Answer
Jacqueline,

When you marry, you need to marry a man who is going to be compatible with you and your religion. This does not necessarily mean a Catholic guy, but it does mean a guy who is not going to argue with you about what you believe and how you practice your faith. The same would go for guys you intend to date seriously.

God speaks to people in many different ways. He may indeed have communicated with you in the ways you suggest. I'm really not in a position to answer that question accurately.

There are good men out there, dear. They are not all consumed by sex. A good place to find upstanding young men is in your church: if they are in their 20s and attending mass regularly, you can be pretty sure they're trying to live their faith.

God bless you. Remember that he loves you always for just who you are.

Deacon Tom