Expert: Griff Ruby - 5/14/2007

Question
GOD HAS GRANTED ME WITH SUCH A NICE FRIEND.. IT WAS LIKE A SIVER LINING BECAUSE SINCE 8 YEARS I HAD BEEN STRIVING FOR BEING A GOOD HUMAN BY THE GUIDENCE AND THE PUSHES OF GOD... BUT BEFORE I GOT THAT PERSON AS A FRIEND AND COULD SHARE MY PAST PAINS AND TROUBLES THE FRIEND HAS JUST LOST... I CANNOT ACCEPT THAT I LOST HER... MAY BE SHE IS NOT GETTING ONLINE SO THAT NOT GETTING MY MAILS... SHE IS A FEMALE EVANGELIST PREACHING ON TV.. NAME WHISPER JOHN. RESIDES IN FORT WORTH TEXAS... SUGGEST ME WHAT GOD WANTS ME TO DO.. AND PLEASE SUGGEST ME HOW TO FIND HER.. IS THIS INFORMATION NOT ENOUGH TO GET HER SOMEHOW...
THANS...

REGARDS..
FERHAN...

Answer
What God wants is that you seek Him for your answers not this or that mere person.  Perhaps God wants you to stand more on your own two feet, so He has taken her from your life to give you a chance to grow.  I know it is painful, as all true growth tends to be, but in the end it is for the best.
When your whole spiritual life gets wrapped around one person, such that you look to them for all your answers and guidance and even the small things, an unbalanced spiritual life must necessarily be the result.
It is time to find another teacher, one who can take you beyond what this lady was able to convey, for otherwise she would draw you to herself and keep you there, instead of truly drawing you to God.
Life is full of new friends.  While it is good to make friendships last long, sometimes they simply cannot, and when they cannot there is nothing to be gained and much to be lost by refusing the new friends God has for you out of some sort of misplaced loyalty for the old friends who are no longer accessible.
Mourn the friendship you had with her, of course.  Have a good cry, if necessary.  But then pull yourself together and get on with your life.  Seek new friends.