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Hi Karen,
I have two adorable persian cats but my male cat is no longer affectionate with me since the female cat arrived. I got the male cat first whe he was three months old and then I got teh female cat when they both were 4 months old. She is very affectionale, comes when I call her and purrs a lot. He used to be cuddly and to follow me everywhere but he no longer does. Now he ignores me when I call him and grumbles when I try to cuddle him. He used to pee on my bed and sofa but does do it now that often. He chases the female cat as they are not fixed but she does not like that. She is very playful but he is not that much. He likes to stay on hos own, sleep a lot and wath out the windows but does not like to go out. When I feed them, he lets her eat frst and then eats.
Do you know what is wrong with my male cat? What can I do to make him affectionate again with me? I tried showing him more attention but it does not seem to help...
Hi Christopher,
Your whole problem will be fixed when your cats are fixed. Your male is marking his territory. And he will not get any friendlier until he is fixed. This will remove a lot of his now aggressive nature. And fixing both will take any future problems that will come about when she goes into heat. Please get them neutered. You and they will be happier. Good luck and take care.
Ciao, Karen
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Answers by Expert:
Karen Craft
Expertise
I can give advice on cat behavior. I can help about newborn kitten care. I can help with senior cat care. I can answer questions about cat proofing a home or making it cat friendly. I can answer diet questions. I can answer home treatments questions for cats. At present I have 13 cats in home and two ferals outside. And there's always room for one more!
Experience
I have over 40 year's experience with cats. Father was a veterinarian and I assisted him in his work. I have 15 cats at present. Most are shelter or feral rescues. I have one purebred cat. I have done cat rescues and foster care.
Some thoughts to carry with you.
A Cat's 10 Commandments
My life is likely to last 15-20 years. Any separation from you is likely to be painful.
Give me time to understand what you want of me.
Place your trust in me. It is crucial for my well-being.
Don't be angry with me for long and don't lock me up as punishment. You have your work, your friends, your entertainments. But I have only you.
Talk to me. Even if I don't understand your words, I do understand your voice when speaking to me.
Be aware that however you treat me, I will never forget it.
Before you swat me, before you strike me, remember that I have teeth that could draw blood. And claws to strike back. And yet I choose not to attack you.
If I don't act right then have me checked to see what is wrong.
Please take care of me when I grow old. You too will grow old.
On the difficult journey, on the ultimate difficult journey, go with me please. Never say you can't bear to watch. Don't make me face this alone. Everything is easier for me if you are there. Because I love you so.
Take a moment today to thank God for your pets. Enjoy and take good care of them. Life would be a much duller, less joyful thing without God's critters. Pass this on.
Education/Credentials
I have an A.A.S.
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