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Expert: - 3/9/2011


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my cat
i need your expert help.. 8mouths ago my kid sis got a one mouth old male kitty (domestic short hair) from a friend as a birthday gift and my mom went mad trying to get us to get rid of it but i clinged to it soo badly and did my best to convince her tht i could take care of it
it wasnt so bad as i got sooo attached to him.. Although he grew up to be a very aggressive cat that doesnt like to be touched and his favoriate game is haunting but we managed and even my mom started to like him.. i thought all cats were like that but the vet told me that my cat is an alpha and that i should neture but i just think thats so cruel.. once my firned got her male cat and my cat wanted to attack him n did those weird piss harsh noises then i was told that male cats are hard to befriends
i noticed by time that he started to hump this specific pink stuffed toy all the time while makin those weird noises but I was told that he is too young for that
2 days ago my cat got sick and i took him to the vet, they asked me to leave him, later at home i got a phone call from my bro saying that his friend wants to get rid of his female Persian cat and if id want her.. i got really excited and immediately agreed, he got her the same day and she was the cuttest thing ever, nearly 3yrs old with long soft hair... everyone fell inlove with her.. she was the opposite of my other aggressive cat, and for two days she stayed and shared my room while the other cat was still in the clinic but I noticed she didn’t eat much, when i went to pick him up i took her for checkup and to my shock the vet told me that it looks like she has just given birth and thts why she wont eat becoz she was probably taken away from her kittens.. plus she noticed that she had a lot of knots of fur all over her body which shows tht she hasn’t been groomed for a really long time and booked me an appointment to shave her off.
The disaster happened when I took them both back.. I could hear the hissing loud voices while driving but I ignored since both of them were in separate boxes.. but then when I got home I noticed it was the Persian doing the voices and not my old aggressive cat.. anyway I took out my cat but left the other one still in and went into the room..  the Persian cat kept on hissing and doing those very loud harsh voices, so I said to myself okay maybe I should open the cage and watch them get over it.. as soon as I did the Persian went running trying to attack the other cat and my cat was soo scared .. I was in shock and didn’t know how to stop them until I cornered the Persian and tried to calm her down but she kept on trying to get out to attack so I carried her out and to my shock she bite me sooo hard I felt like an electric wave shock went thru my arm.. after a big hassle I managed to lock her in a different room and she was still hissing at me and trying to get out, I kept coming back every now and then to check on her and id find her by the door waiting for something and if she hears the bell of the other cat she starts again with the voices… she didn’t even let me touch her and I could see she was soo scared … I really don’t know wat to do and how to solve this? My mom wants me to get rid of her but I kinda feel sorry for her and I wanna keep her but if she is going to attack my other cat then id have to.. please help me figure this out

Answer
Wasan,

The first order of business is to get the male neutered and the female spayed.  Then, and only then, do you have a hope of them getting along.

Once they are altered and all healed up, then you can separate them for a week or two and then let them get back together.  Ignore any hissing or spitting and let them sort their relationship on their own.  Do not interfere, they really probably are not going to hurt each other, just make lots of noise.

After a few weeks, they should begin to get along.

Best regards... Norm.  

Norman Auspitz

Expertise

I can answer most non-veterinary questions about cats. My particular expertise is pedigree cats, breeding and showing. However, I am versed in feline behavior, cat breeds and their characteristics, general feline husbandry, and the like.

Experience

I judged for the Canadian Cat Association from 1975 until 1982. I am currently an approved allbreed judge for the Cat Fanciers'' Association (the world''s largets cat registry), and have been judging for them since 1991. I have been breeding pedigreed cats since 1971 and have been exhibiting pedigreed cats in shows since 1970. I obtained my first pedigreed cat in 1970 and have never looked back. In 1971, I obtained my first Abyssinian which has become my primary breed. In addition, I have bred Manx and Persians. Currently, besides the Abyssinians, I am also breeding Maine Coons.


Organizations
Cat Fanciers'' Association, inc. (CFA) and the Manx, Maine Coon, and Abyssinian breed councils. I am currently Abyssinian breed council secretary.

Publications
Cat Fancy Magazine, The Abyssinian Chapter in The Cat Fanciers'' Association Complete Cat Book, and Articles for various editions of The Cat Fanciers'' Association Yearbook

Education/Credentials
I received a B.S. from Drexel University in 1968, a M.Math from University of Waterloo, in 1970, a Ph.D. from University of Waterloo in 1975, and a MBA from McMaster University in 1980. I received my approved allbreed judging status in the Cat Fanciers'' Association in 1999.

Awards and Honors
We have produced a number of Cat Fanciers'' Association (CFA) National winning Abyssinian and Maine Coons. We have produced a number of Abyssinian and Maine Coon Distinguished Merit females (an award for a top producing cat), including the first Distinguished Merit Abyssinian in the red (sorrel) color. I am the CFA Abyssinian breed council secretary and belong and/or hold office in a number of cat clubs. I am also a member of the CFA Judges Association.

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