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Hi Ali!
    We have 2 boys that are approximately the same age (5yrs).  Tiger is a portion Maine Coon and Pudge is a portion Nebelung.  Pudge and his brother Scooter were in our home first as 2 month olds. A woman had found their whole litter abandoned on the steps of a funeral home and we fell for the 2 boys. Unfortunately, Scooter had a congenital defect and our Vet put him to sleep when he was about 4 months old leaving Pudge by himself.  We scoured local SPCA sites and found Tiger who we made sure was 5 months old the same as Pudge.  When small they were thick as thieves sharing one litter box and playing and sleeping together and being affectionate with the family.  As they have aged although they don't go at the same time together they do still use the same litter box, they eat together, play together however, Tiger appears to be the Alpha male pretty much dominating all that they do...Pudge is very aware of where Tiger is during his awake time, is preened by Tiger and gets out of our laps when Tiger enters the room.  Tiger will come into our room and socialize and sleep on our bed and Pudge isn't really "allowed" by Tiger.  When Tiger is not around- Pudge does seek loving time and I believe enjoys laying on us, but as soon as he is aware that Tiger enters the room he will immediately get down.  I am wondering what we might do to be able to help facilitate Pudge being able to assert himself so he could enjoy some of the lovey time that Tiger keeps all to himself??  Even though they are not pure breeds, is it a function of the breeds they are? or is something that might be in our behavior??  We would appreciate whatever suggestions you might be able to afford us.  Sincerely, Mary


In any multiple kitty household there will be a certain amount of "sibling" rivalry even if the cats aren't related, regardless of age or breed. Sometimes pheremone based calming collars can help to settle things down. Some pet parents have told me that Thunder Coats work well for cats. I would say that trying the pheremone based collars (I believe Petsmart sells them for roughly $15 each) would be a good start towards helping your boys regain some of their former loving, calm relationship... I've had great success with these collars in the past. It can be kind of tough to make sure that each kitty in a multiple cat household gets adequate (and somewhat equal) snuggle time with their human caregivers so I tend to try and do group play time and group treat times... This way everyone gets to feel special and have their moment in the sun which might also help to settle down some of the discussions between Tiger and Pudge over which kitty is boss. I hope that you found this information helpful. If you have any further questions or concerns, please feel free to contact me again at any time - I'm more than happy to help in any way that I can.

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I am the proud guardian of 5 mixed breed cats ranging from 12 weeks to 13 years old and one purebred ragdoll. I have 20+ years experience working with mixed breed cats from a variety of different situations. I have fostered cats/kittens with special needs/behavioral issues. I have rescued/rehabilitated/re-homed a variety of stray/abused cats. I can offer advice on managing feral cat colonies, rehabilitating strays and finding them forever homes. I can help you to determine whether a cat is stray or feral, there IS a significant difference. Improperly introducing a new cat/kitten can result in aggression between newly introduced cats because cats are territorial by nature and they don't like sudden changes in their environment. To learn more about a peaceful way to introduce a new cat into a home with other cats please check out my previous answers on this subject. Proper nutrition for cats can be confusing, I recommend checking out which was created by a veterinarian (Dr. Lisa Pierson) who takes a common sense approach to explaining feline nutrition. Cat behavior and instincts are different from those of humans, I can help you understand your cat's needs so that you can meet them adequately and have a balanced, psychologically and physically sound kitty. Cats vary in personality, energy level and intelligence, different approaches may be required to achieve results in terms of training and interaction with your feline companion. An intelligent, high energy cat must be kept busy or they will make their own fun. I am NOT a licensed veterinarian and I can't offer medical advice. If your cat is ill/injured my advice is always the same: get prompt medical treatment provided by a veterinarian. If finances are an issue I will try to find resources in your area that can help with medical costs or make other choices to ensure the welfare of your cat.


I have fostered feral and stray cats, rehabilitated and homed cats that many people recommended euthanasia for. I am willing to make an effort to do the research and ask questions because I care enough to find solutions to behavioral problems rather than giving up. I have an interest in the use of alternative therapies to help provide the best possible care for all cats and I can say in all honesty that I've seen some incredible things happen for some incredible cats and their human caregivers when the right alternative therapeutic modality is used by a qualified veterinarian with expertise and experience in the field.

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