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I got my new bi coloured lilac oriental on 26th Dec, it is now 7 Jan, so just over 2 weeks. I am getting very concerned as she is just not socialising or bonding. She is still very much a scared cat and hides from me. She is eating well, using litter, plays a lot but just doe not voluntarily come to me. I can pick her up and tickle and scratch her tummy which she loves and purrs, but after a while will run away again. some days are ok, and then next day is like 10 steps back. I try not force her to do anything and let her be. There are no other animals and I have hardly left her alone. Help! is this unusual, or must I stay patient? at wits end


How much do you know about the breeder your kitten came from? How old is your kitten? If your kitten came from a backyard breeder the issues you're seeing could be the result of a lack of socialization which takes time, love, patience and gentle persistance to overcome... If your kitten was any younger than 12 weeks of age when she came to live with you she was too young to leave her mommy.... Sometimes the oriental breeds actually need more time with mom than other breeds because they do tend to mature a bit more slowly. I have done extensive rehab with cats and kittens but I like to see what is actually happening before I go making a whole array of suggestions... Maybe a video of her typical behaviour posted on youtube might be helpful for me... I just want to make sure that I don't steer you in the wrong direction with your baby... You guys have a lifetime ahead and we want it to be the happiest, healthiest and least stressful that it can be!

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