Expert: Becky - 8/9/2006

Question
Hi Becky, I have been having trouble with my older cat now attacking the younger one. My male is 8 yrs old and the female is 3 ( they are both fixed) They have been best friends for 3 years now. It all started a couple weeks ago. They were by the slider doors and maybe saw a stray cat outside.Also was a bad thunderstorm that day too. Well ever since my male is attacking her bad. When she is being attacked she pees and poops. I think out of fear. I have had them seperated for a few days because I hate the mess. What can I do to stop this? I have just bought some Bach rescue remity flower essense. Do you think that will help? I was told to put it in their ears? I want my loveable kitty back! She is so scared of him and growls and shakes when she sees him. She does not fight back!  Any suggestions?  Thankyou so much,   Kristine

Answer
Hi Kristine!
Oh, your poor little female... I feel so bad for her. Something needs to be done, she is so scared!!  I have never heard of the Bach rescue remity, but if it works , go for it.  I think your male is showing his dominance, and when he saw the other cat, it made him more agressive.  Usually male cats that are neutered are calmer than this, but it sometimes happens.  I had a neutered male once that also terrorized my female. I ended up placing him in another home when he bit a huge hole in my female's neck. That was the last straw!  I had to take her to the Vet to have her sewn up.  He is still living happily with a friend!  I hope it doesn't come to that for you, but it is a shame that she is being terrorized by him. If he doesn't get better, you may want to consider placing him or her elsewhere.
God Bless!
Becky