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Expert: - 7/11/2007


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I have a tempermental 3 year old female Siamese.  Her behavior is starting to get worrisome.  My son returned home 4 days ago from a 2 week vacation.  We came home this evening and our cat had peed on his bed.  Lately she has been hissing at my boyfriend and really gets angry with hissing and spitting at his daughter.  They only have to walk into the room and the cat goes nuts.  I am concerned our cat is very jealous of everyone.  She usually sleeps with me at night unless my boyfriend is over for the weekend and we close the door due to his allergies.  I am concerned the cat's behavior will get worse and I don't know what to do about it.  I can't tolerate the peeing on the bed and the spitting at the daughter scares her terribly.

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Hi Cheryl,

First off, get her to the vet to be checked to make sure she is not sick. The peeing and the hissing could be signs that she is sick.
If she checks out ok then onto the next steps. It could be that any change in your household is stressing her out. Try getting a product called Feliway. Get the whole house atomizer. This acts as a kitty tranquilizer. She sounds like she needs that. You can also have your boyfriend bring her special treats for her when he comes over. Deli chicken works wonders. You want to have her associate him with good things. As for the daughter, she needs to wait her turn. Your cat may get stressed from too many people around her.

The most likely reason she did what she did to your son is because of the strange smells he brought back on him. Once he washes his stuff all should go back to normal. Good luck.

Ciao, Karen

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I can give advice on cat behavior. I can help about newborn kitten care. I can help with senior cat care. I can answer questions about cat proofing a home or making it cat friendly. I can answer diet questions. I can answer home treatments questions for cats. At present I have 13 cats in home and two ferals outside. And there's always room for one more!

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I have over 40 year's experience with cats. Father was a veterinarian and I assisted him in his work. I have 15 cats at present. Most are shelter or feral rescues. I have one purebred cat. I have done cat rescues and foster care. Some thoughts to carry with you. A Cat's 10 Commandments My life is likely to last 15-20 years. Any separation from you is likely to be painful. Give me time to understand what you want of me. Place your trust in me. It is crucial for my well-being. Don't be angry with me for long and don't lock me up as punishment. You have your work, your friends, your entertainments. But I have only you. Talk to me. Even if I don't understand your words, I do understand your voice when speaking to me. Be aware that however you treat me, I will never forget it. Before you swat me, before you strike me, remember that I have teeth that could draw blood. And claws to strike back. And yet I choose not to attack you. If I don't act right then have me checked to see what is wrong. Please take care of me when I grow old. You too will grow old. On the difficult journey, on the ultimate difficult journey, go with me please. Never say you can't bear to watch. Don't make me face this alone. Everything is easier for me if you are there. Because I love you so. Take a moment today to thank God for your pets. Enjoy and take good care of them. Life would be a much duller, less joyful thing without God's critters. Pass this on.

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