Celibacy/Abstinence/Taking decisions


Dear Sir,

I really need your help

That which has to happen happens ...

what then is the purpose of free will (if it even exists! ...)

because sometimes we are faced with huge dilemma regarding

the righteous thing to do in many facets of life we encounter ...

We are faced with situations in which moral convictions seem to

come in way of our practice ...

What is to be done then ?

continue practice regardless ?

Is not causing harm/suffering to others the supreme duty ?

or just following the seemingly righteous thing to do ...

What really is our dharma or duty ?

Especially regarding the decisions on the path the divine will wants us to follow ?

1. As long as the individual Ego (which itself is false) exists, free will (also false) exists as regards that Ego. In a 'Gnyani' (realized being) the Ego having merged into the Atman, is gone forever along with the imaginary free-will. Hence all his actions are the actions of God.

2. An aspirant striving to negate the Ego finds it tough to decide on the course of action as regards a particular life situation as he does not know what is God's will. At such times, the way out is to try perform that action which seems the most right and required within the tenets of one's Dharma with detachment. Then let us silently watch whether it is possible to proceed.  The path in which the action proceeds will eventually be known which we accept without contest.

3. Our only Dharma is to know who we are. All other activities are incidental. When this is clearly understood, the aspirant applies conscious efforts to attain to his self and handles other situations deciding what is right action to the extent of his knowledge. If this much is done without desire for the outcome and with surrender to God, HE shows the right way.

Ultimately, what HE wishes alone transpires, try how much one may to do otherwise.

4. The correct approach is to neither apply effort, nor remain idle but to remain neutral as a puppet does in the hands of the puppeteer. The puppet remains beyond action and inaction in a state of complete surrender to the puppeteer. It is completely ready to move in any way the strings pull it. It does not have an individual will of its own. Such activity when practiced for long helps one get free from bondage and become receptive to the will of the Lord.

Such a man is the happiest man, for he has gone beyond desire and functions only under the will of the Almighty. He watches the world as a game, playing his part under the commands of the higher power. The actions of such a man are those of God and hence always right.

ॐ तत् सत्
(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)  


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The term 'Yoga' is a derivative of the Samskruth verb 'Yuj' which refers to union. 'Yoga', also called 'Brahma vidy‚' is the eternal dissolution of the individual 'Aham' (Ego) into the Atman (self) for 'Mukti' (liberation). Mere indulgence in '¬sana' or physical postures is not Yoga. ¬sana is only one limb or 'Anga' of Yoga. The eight limbs viz. Yama, Niyama, ¬sana, Pr‚n‚y‚ma, Praty‚h‚ra, Dh‚rana, Dhy‚na and Sam‚dhi are the means to Yoga. Brahmacharya or spiritually based continence is one of the important components of 'Yama'. 'Brahmacharya':- "Brahmani charyathey ithi" - "To surrender one's Ego and go with the will of the Almighty."

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