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Celibacy/Abstinence/Self realization v/s selfishness.


Dear Dhananjay,

Hope you are doing well.

I have repeatedly read you asserting that self realization is your primary goal/duty.Rest all we should leave in hands of god.But I don't think this suggestion helps much either due to it's purport being lost in translation or due to short number of words used.

-->Some people view yogis as selfish beings cos they are giving priority to themselves first instead of utilising their resources/powers to help poor/sick/needy which they are aware of.

-->There are millions sufferring like the living dead in India itself,where are so called self realized beings help for them.

-->If goal of yogi is to merge with god then isn't that a very selfish objective as well?He should stay back & help countless achieve same which he has ,also probably with some help.

-->Is it possible to achieve liberation just on the basis of selfless service like Mother Theresa did or is experience of nirvikalpa samadhi/realization of oneness a must?

1. Helping people to the extent possible as regards money or food, without expecting anything in return is noble but not the permanent solution to the problem.

Gift of food or money does not make the need for these go away. The taker again becomes hungry and penniless in the course of time and the process becomes unending.

The permanent solution is to remove the cause of suffering -'Agnyana' (ignorance) - The reason behind birth in the physical body, prone to suffering, when one's default state is that of the formless Atman which is ever at bliss. This is possible only by realizing the self. Upon achieving the same, one can help others take up this path. This is real help and true charity

2. What is the 'self'? Who are the 'others'? Who is God and who suffers? One should first get the answer to these questions by realizing one's self first. Then one understands what realized sages do and don't. Then alone is it realized that it is not the 'self' which is selfish but the Ego which is mistaken for the self. Till then, one cannot understand the help rendered by realized beings.

3. How do you know that the realized ones are not helping others? They work silently in a manner not perceived by people at large.

4. The paths to liberation are many. Depending on the temperament and nature of individuals, the great Lord makes each Jiva take a suitable path. Dissolution of the individual ego is itself 'Nirvikalpa Samadhi' and eternal residence in that state even while awake to the external world is alone 'Mukti' (liberation), achieve it by what means you may.

ॐ तत् सत्
(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)  


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The term 'Yoga' is a derivative of the Samskruth verb 'Yuj' which refers to union. 'Yoga', also called 'Brahma vidy‚' is the eternal dissolution of the individual 'Aham' (Ego) into the Atman (self) for 'Mukti' (liberation). Mere indulgence in '¬sana' or physical postures is not Yoga. ¬sana is only one limb or 'Anga' of Yoga. The eight limbs viz. Yama, Niyama, ¬sana, Pr‚n‚y‚ma, Praty‚h‚ra, Dh‚rana, Dhy‚na and Sam‚dhi are the means to Yoga. Brahmacharya or spiritually based continence is one of the important components of 'Yama'. 'Brahmacharya':- "Brahmani charyathey ithi" - "To surrender one's Ego and go with the will of the Almighty."


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