thanks in advance.

i think am gay. 40yo, unmarried,
when performing yoga, meditation, self massage, or just sitting calmly and quitely, either get attracted towards myself or some imaginary male and without touching any body part, the penis gets erect and starts ejaculation.
the family situation and financial position is that there are no chances of getting married either way. (homo or hetre. and hetro i dont want too, as i know am gay).

please help.


Ignore sexual thoughts to the extent of your ability and take up a life of Yoga with the required lifestyle, with surrender to God, to realize the self. Let the urge to overcome this illusion be strong and genuine. With perseverance, you will gradually overcome the issue henceforth.

ॐ तत् सत्
(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)  


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Questions concerning the practice of 'Brahmacharya' to know the self, & the means required are dealt with here.


The term 'Yoga' is a derivative of the Samskruth verb 'Yuj' which refers to union. 'Yoga', also called 'Brahma vidy‚' is the eternal dissolution of the individual 'Aham' (Ego) into the Atman (self) for 'Mukti' (liberation). Mere indulgence in '¬sana' or physical postures is not Yoga. ¬sana is only one limb or 'Anga' of Yoga. The eight limbs viz. Yama, Niyama, ¬sana, Pr‚n‚y‚ma, Praty‚h‚ra, Dh‚rana, Dhy‚na and Sam‚dhi are the means to Yoga. Brahmacharya or spiritually based continence is one of the important components of 'Yama'. 'Brahmacharya':- "Brahmani charyathey ithi" - "To surrender one's Ego and go with the will of the Almighty."


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