Celibacy/Abstinence/Combating Loneliness


Dear sir,

I broke myself the other day, due to large intake of alcohol the previous night. I was in the house alone all day and just felt lonely.
I have recently quit smoking for good and I mean good, I'm reading books and listening to audio books on quitting smoking they help a lot, this is good as I finally feel a great sense of freedom from quitting now.
I think I drank the alcohol due to the pressure of quitting smoking I'm not a regular drinker (rarely) and only seem to drink when the pressure of life gets to me, this I must conquer.

I live with my family at home at the moment, I have my own business for a little while now and will be looking to move out sometime early summer next year. I am a single man, I know I have to remain strong to grow, I hope that I meet new friends and good people however I'm frightened of regularly being alone in the flat, this is why I have been wanting to get a dog. I don't know the future maybe I move in with flat mates, I need to grow up and realise that I can only count on God, it's just I don't really want to be regularly alone in a flat although I must move out to grow. Sometimes I wish I could be the outgoing person who does what he wants with no conscience, the pain is too much though.

I appreciate you wandering my previous question.
Hope to hear from you.


With proper Sadhana, these issues will iron out eventually. There's no harm in having a dog, however, one has to learn to hold on to the self and be at peace, content in the inner self alone. That alone is eternal.

ॐ तत् सत्
(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)  


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The term 'Yoga' is a derivative of the Samskruth verb 'Yuj' which refers to union. 'Yoga', also called 'Brahma vidy‚' is the eternal dissolution of the individual 'Aham' (Ego) into the Atman (self) for 'Mukti' (liberation). Mere indulgence in '¬sana' or physical postures is not Yoga. ¬sana is only one limb or 'Anga' of Yoga. The eight limbs viz. Yama, Niyama, ¬sana, Pr‚n‚y‚ma, Praty‚h‚ra, Dh‚rana, Dhy‚na and Sam‚dhi are the means to Yoga. Brahmacharya or spiritually based continence is one of the important components of 'Yama'. 'Brahmacharya':- "Brahmani charyathey ithi" - "To surrender one's Ego and go with the will of the Almighty."


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