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QUESTION: Is a close and friendly relation with opposite sex harmful?, even though it is just limited to being friends and exchange of opinions, motivating/ educating each other and nothing beyond this.
Does this contribute towards abrahmacharya or adharmic in any way?

ANSWER: It is not harmful in the ideal sense, by itself. However, it will divert the mind off Sadhana, dilute one's efforts & eventually instigate sexual tendencies, following which downfall begins.

The pursuit of the truth cannot afford any other form of distraction.

ॐ तत् सत्
(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)

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QUESTION: You mean to say friendship with opposite sex is the only thing which diverts the mind and dilutes the efforts in comparision to friendship with friends of same sex.
I mean to ask if friendship (of same gender) is not harmful?

Any activity which draws one into its fold again & again, causing attachment is an impediment; be it through the same or opposite gender.

ॐ तत् सत्
(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)  


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The term 'Yoga' is a derivative of the Samskruth verb 'Yuj' which refers to union. 'Yoga', also called 'Brahma vidy‚' is the eternal dissolution of the individual 'Aham' (Ego) into the Atman (self) for 'Mukti' (liberation). Mere indulgence in '¬sana' or physical postures is not Yoga. ¬sana is only one limb or 'Anga' of Yoga. The eight limbs viz. Yama, Niyama, ¬sana, Pr‚n‚y‚ma, Praty‚h‚ra, Dh‚rana, Dhy‚na and Sam‚dhi are the means to Yoga. Brahmacharya or spiritually based continence is one of the important components of 'Yama'. 'Brahmacharya':- "Brahmani charyathey ithi" - "To surrender one's Ego and go with the will of the Almighty."


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