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Hi Dhananjay,

I was reading about the negative look in the past answers, but I didn't think it was an actual thing until it happened to me. Could you go into it more, please? I had a man stare at me, and he refused to look away. I don't know what his reason was, but I could definitely some kind of negativity/hostility. I'm aware Brahmacharya leads to luster in the face, and usually when I'm public I just try to find my way to wherever I'm going or have to do, but sometimes it's difficult to ignore someone who is being so obvious with their eyes. It often feels normal when women do it, but with men the entire vibe is different, and I can feel it disrupting my emotions. I also work outside in public, so it can be really annoying when you're just trying to work.

Much thanks

The method to overcome the issue is to gradually displace the one within (Ego) which has no better business but react to everything and nothing. Then, the Shanti (peace) of the Atman (self) alone remains.

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(That Supreme being is the absolute truth)


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The term 'Yoga' is a derivative of the Samskruth verb 'Yuj' which refers to union. 'Yoga', also called 'Brahma vidy‚' is the eternal dissolution of the individual 'Aham' (Ego) into the Atman (self) for 'Mukti' (liberation). Mere indulgence in '¬sana' or physical postures is not Yoga. ¬sana is only one limb or 'Anga' of Yoga. The eight limbs viz. Yama, Niyama, ¬sana, Pr‚n‚y‚ma, Praty‚h‚ra, Dh‚rana, Dhy‚na and Sam‚dhi are the means to Yoga. Brahmacharya or spiritually based continence is one of the important components of 'Yama'. 'Brahmacharya':- "Brahmani charyathey ithi" - "To surrender one's Ego and go with the will of the Almighty."


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