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| Subject | Date Asked |
| masturbation and pranic energy | 1/8/2012 |
| Q: Namaste.. Im Skod 23 yo... Im addicted to pornography and masturbation.. Masturbating since 10yo ... A: Namaste! I'm glad to get your questions. Your text will be indexed and I'll give my answers and ... | |
| Repulsive pictures | 1/24/2011 |
| Q: If I remember correctly you had mentioned there were sites depicting the human body in gory ... A: Just do a picture search on Gunther Von Hagens, like this: ... | |
| Music and sublimation | 1/6/2011 |
| Q: Its nice to see you again after sometime. I have to confess my efforts in maintaining celibacy has ... A: Yes we use meditative music all the time. We also use exciting music, too, as long as it has a ... | |
| Sexual Sublimination or Sexual Transmutation and how to get it to actually work!? Also male multiple orgasms with PC control. | 1/2/2011 |
| Q: Ok I get the theory anyone can get the theory but making it actually work (if it does at all) is the ... A: Chastity helps you get things done because 1. You have a lot more time that is not being wasted on ... | |
| Sexual Sublimination or Sexual Transmutation and how to get it to actually work!? Also male multiple orgasms with PC control. | 1/2/2011 |
| Q: Ok I get the theory anyone can get the theory but making it actually work (if it does at all) is the ... A: Great to get your question, Sam. I think it's important that we deal with this question, because ... | |
| Succubus ? | 1/1/2011 |
| Q: Trust this finds you in high spirits and cheer. I'm a celibate who's into unbroken celibacy since ... A: God bless you, Carty. Yes a succubus in my experience can be dealt with through a simple though ... | |
| celibacy | 1/1/2011 |
| Q: Ive been celebate for the past two and half yrs, ive chosen not to date so i can focus on other ... A: Oh, Holly! You know if you think about it, there are many, many wonderful things we could be doing ... | |
| mental disease | 8/16/2010 |
| Q: I have a three-part question. First, do you believe that sexual incontinence causes mental diseases ... A: Great to get your questions. Q: Do you believe that sexual incontinence causes mental diseases of ... | |
| Lust and strength | 5/15/2010 |
| Q: Awesome Work! How long does it take for the mind to be fully developed, as far as how long must one ... A: and thanks for your question! I've reworded it and answered it below. Q. How many years of chastity ... | |
| Celibacy and career issues | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: Whenever I am chaste I find myself feeling tremendous egotistical thoughts pertaining to my lost ... A: Very interesting questions, Kavan! These should be helpful to many readers, so I thank you in ... | |
| Celibacy, Meditation and Fatigue | 3/7/2010 |
| Q: I had asked you a question a couple months ago about pain in my abdomen and lower back. I wanted to ... A: Nice to hear from you, John! I've summarized your questions below. Q: Does semen get used up when ... | |
| Siddhis from Celibacy | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: I have been practicising brahmacharya for over 2 months now and I am very impressed with the results ... A: Great to get your question! I've summarized and answered your questions below. Q: How do siddhis ... | |
| Its a struggle | 3/1/2010 |
| Q: I have been trying to establish a considerable period of celibacy for the past 6 months but have not ... A: Q: The first six months of establishing celibacy is difficult. Does this mean celibacy is contrary ... | |
| spiritual significance of oral sex | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: i am living with a celibate woman and occasionally i cant stand it so i am given oral sex by another ... A: Jeff! My answer is below. Q: What is the spiritual significance of oral sex? A: Oral sex is ... | |
| celibacy | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: It has been more than a year since I’ve been practicing it with meditation in an ‘on-and-off’ ... A: I've summarized and answered them below. Q: Is spermatorrhea a loss? A: Yes, but it is far less of ... | |
| seminal retention | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: does this cause testicular cancer A: That's a great question, Jeff! I've summarized and answered your question below. Q: Does chastity ... | |
| celibacy | 2/7/2010 |
| Q: It has been more than a year since I’ve been practicing it with meditation in an ‘on-and-off’ ... A: I've summarized your questions below. Q: Is immaculate conception possible? A: To every ... | |
| Semen conservation | 1/24/2010 |
| Q: 1a. Say, one is celibate for a week for example.....I conserve my semen during this time. From my ... A: great to get your question! I've summarized your questions and answered them below. Q: Is ... | |
| Pain in abdomen/back with chastity | 1/10/2010 |
| Q: I have been trying to practice celibacy for many years but always failed because of tv, internet, ... A: Great to get your question. I've summarized and answered your questions below. Q: Could back pain ... | |
| Tantra Yoga Kama Sutra | 1/9/2010 |
| Q: ..I totally believe in celibacy and it is the highest way. My fiance and I are having sex but I want ... A: Nice to meet you, Angela. I've summarized your questions below and have answered them to the best of ... | |
| Celibacy Benefits | 1/8/2010 |
| Q: Can you please pointwise summarise the benefits you experienced from celibacy? I have tried and ... A: great to get your question! Q: What (point by point) are the benefits you have received from being ... | |
| Chastity and metaphysics | 12/19/2009 |
| Q: Do you believe chastity is the ultimate virtue? Do you think chastity if pursued deep enough leads ... A: It's nice to hear from you. I've summarized your questions below. Q: Do you believe chastity is the ... | |
| chastity slip | 12/16/2009 |
| Q: You are very much needed in this world. I have been chaste for 2 months and 15 days. I feel great! ... A: Great to get your question. I hope my answer will be of help to you. Q: What are the negative ... | |
| Toxins and release thereof | 12/15/2009 |
| Q: You said in a previous answer, "In celibate circles, the male wet dream is known as "the male ... A: Great to get your question. I hope my answers will be of use. Q: How long does it take for a ... | |
| celibacy tips | 11/26/2009 |
| Q: Can you please explain me, 1) What is IBS ? 2) What is Orgasms ? 3) What is testosterone? Chandru A: Sorry for the lateness of this response, but due to the internet restrictions in China I have been ... | |
| Chastity in sleep | 11/25/2009 |
| Q: Quick question. I seem to be doing well during the day, but in sleep it is a different story. ... A: Sorry for the delay, but firewall restrictions in China have prevented me from signing on for a few ... | |
| Celibacy tips | 10/31/2009 |
| Q: I heard that repetition of some positive sentences again and again in the mind gives strengthening ... A: I've summarized them below. Q: Is it true that chanting can help us in chastity? How does chanting ... | |
| Celibacy tips | 10/29/2009 |
| Q: Can you please tell me how to develop strong determination for maintaining perfect brahmacharya ? A: My answer is below. Q: How can someone develop strong determination for maintaining perfect ... | |
| Sadhana and pitfalls | 10/21/2009 |
| Q: My humble pranams at your lotus feet. Though I came to know the importance of Brahmacharya from few ... A: Great to get your questions! I will answer them as succinctly as possible. Q: Has Ian Clark not had ... | |
| celibate marriage vs sexual marriage | 10/20/2009 |
| Q: In what ways is a celibate marriage superior to a marriage base on satisfying one's sexual needs? ... A: My answers are below. Q: In what ways is a celibate marriage superior to a marriage based on ... | |
| Celibacy and IBS | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: This question is more about your pre-celibate IBS. Are you convinced that celibacy "cured" your IBS? ... A: Hey John, thanks for the question. I hope I can be of help! Q: Are you convinced that celibacy ... | |
| Celibacy | 10/3/2009 |
| Q: I am a 22 yr old girl. I have been working in the corporate sector for the last 1 year. I was having ... A: Though I feel we are on a very different page in life, I'll try to relate to you as best as I can, ... | |
| Abstinence during marriage | 8/27/2009 |
| Q: I am 32 years old man, married 3 years ago. I have a high libido but still maintained virginity till ... A: I'll do my best to help with your questions. First, some impressions and comments: It's great ... | |
| Abstinence during marriage | 8/15/2009 |
| Q: I am 32 years old man, married 3 years ago. I have a high libido but still maintained virginity till ... A: Nice to meet you. I will paraphrase my understanding of your questions below and do my best to ... | |
| Celibacy questions | 6/25/2009 |
| Q: Are there any simple yogasanas for controlling the man's sex desire ? Are there any harmless ... A: Saravanakumar! I'll do my best to answer them. Q: Are there any simple yogasanas for controlling ... | |
| Celibacy tips | 5/27/2009 |
| Q: I am very much interested in practising celibacy (brahmacharya). But I am having 2 problems. 1) ... A: I'll do my best to answer them below. Q: What should I do about wet dreams? A: More sublimation of ... | |
| how to focus and keep pure thoughts | 3/28/2009 |
| Q: Brother Ian, thanks for doing this great service.I listen to yours and julian lee's teachings and it ... A: I'll do my best to answer to your satisfaction. I understand your question to be: how can one ... | |
| celibacy | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: What are some of your methods for celebacy? What can I expect say after a year of being celibate? A: Answers are as follows: Q: What are some of your methods for celebacy? A: Celibacy must usually ... | |
| Various questions | 11/9/2008 |
| Q: A few questions. I was reading an answer Yahoo answers regarding a supposed decrease in urinary ... A: Q: Do people develop urinary problems from celibacy? A: To the contrary, if one has urinary ... | |
| Celibacy in Teenhood | 10/3/2008 |
| Q: I was wondering if you could outline the general benefits you have felt in your life after becoming ... A: A: After hearing the comment that pornography is the cause of a sexually reressed society, and that ... | |
| Celibacy in Teenhood | 9/30/2008 |
| Q: I was wondering if you could outline the general benefits you have felt in your life after becoming ... A: I'll answer them in order: Q: I was wondering if you could outline the general benefits you have ... | |
| women sexuality | 9/9/2008 |
| Q: do u know any home remedies or foods or drink that will supress a woman's sex appeal? i'm seriuos. ... A: IHM. "Horny" is really a state of boredom, in which you cannot think of constructive things to do. ... | |
| Remaining chaste around the unchaste | 8/29/2008 |
| Q: I'm due to start university soon and a recent concern that has arisen is that I will most probably ... A: It's not a complicated affair to advocate celibacy. Basically the question of sublimation that you ... | |
| Remaning chaste around the unchaste | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: I'm due to start university soon and a recent concern that has arisen is that I will most probably ... A: They are all very pertinent. re: mantras The Maha (Mahaa), Gauranga and Nityananda mantras all ... | |
| Remaning chaste around the unchaste | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: I'm due to start university soon and a recent concern that has arisen is that I will most probably ... A: Anonymous. First let me say that it is very brave to remain chaste in your youth. There is ... | |
| Celibacy | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: I am a regular visitor of www.celibacy.info. I am striving hard on the celibate path. I asked ... A: Yes you're personal world dream will get more and more positive, as long as you take the measures I ... | |
| Celibacy | 8/21/2008 |
| Q: I am a regular visitor of www.celibacy.info. I am striving hard on the celibate path. I asked ... A: Sanj. Can one person's karma transmit to another? Well that depends on who the other is. Light ... | |
| celibacy forum | 7/8/2008 |
| Q: I just opened a forum for folks who are celibate. My husband and & were in a celibate marriage for ... A: Sure, Cherie! It's acceptable to have one post on this. Let's make it a statement for those who ... | |
| unwanted arousal | 7/3/2008 |
| Q: You are right, as a counsellor I do pick up a lot of information from my clients of a sexual nature. ... A: Fred. It is very critical to have the people you counsel not give too many details concerning their ... | |
| celibacy | 6/21/2008 |
| Q: I'm a bit confused about terminology. What is the difference, if any, between chastity and celibacy? ... A: Marie. There are several effective ways to clear the mind of lustful and destructive thoughts. The ... | |
| celibacy | 6/16/2008 |
| Q: I'm a bit confused about terminology. What is the difference, if any, between chastity and celibacy? ... A: Concerning potency: Potency refers to powers. Celibates retain more spiritual power within which ... | |
| celibacy | 6/13/2008 |
| Q: I'm a bit confused about terminology. What is the difference, if any, between chastity and celibacy? A: Since you are a Catholic, I'll give you the Catholic answer. "Chaste" means to refrain from ... | |
| celibacy | 6/13/2008 |
| Q: I want to be a nun but I'm worried about the chastity part because I am a very affectionate person. ... A: This is a very good question. We see that in Chinese medicine and reflexology, that the mouth is ... | |
| celibacy | 6/11/2008 |
| Q: I want to be a nun but I'm worried about the chastity part because I am a very affectionate person. ... A: Billie. I hope this response is of some help to you: Q: What about the physical effects of never ... | |
| celibacy | 6/10/2008 |
| Q: I want to be a nun but I'm worried about the chastity part because I am a very affectionate person. ... A: Celibates do touch and hug people, particularly our spiritual brothers (and in your case, sisters). ... | |
| Why is sex bad? | 4/21/2008 |
| Q: I don't know if you know the religious implications of this, but what is the point of Christianity ... A: John- Many people have these questions, but do not voice them - so again thanks for your attention. ... | |
| Erection | 3/20/2008 |
| Q: I would like to know if there are any methods to stop yourself from getting an erection. It can be ... A: Jake- Thanks for your question. I know of a few ways to prevent erection: 1. Get busy with ... | |
Celibacy/Abstinence
Answers by Expert:
Ian Abram Clark
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
I can answer questions to all those who are curious about the celibacy challenge, to those who doubt that celibacy is possible, and to those need tips concerning the pitfalls of an abstinent life.
Experience
I've been interested in sexual restraint for several years now, and as of mid-March of 2006, became a strict celibate.
Organizations
I am a brother in the Brotherhood of the Sacred Word.
Publications
I am a webmaster and frequent contributor for the inspirational "celibacy.info" and currently working on co-authoring "The Bliss of the Celibate" with Julian Lee (a celibacy guru of some fame). I have a book written in Chinese and published in China, called or "I'm Not a Foreigner" which explores questions of parenting and growing pains.
Education/Credentials
I'm a confirmed Buddhist under the master Chuanzhen Fashi in Nanjing, China. I've visited and studied under the great Karunamayi in Penusila, Andhra Pradesh, India.
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