Expert: Don - 1/28/2008

Question
im a 31 divorced woman, but living now with my 28 years old boyfriend since a year and half. last month i had a medical abortion and i had to travel and leave him alone for 10 days. when i came back he we made it out only twice. and the second time was painful for him. but didnt tell me the reason.
by coincidence, last night i was surfing the net and i found in the history search that my man was searching for solution on the "sexual transmited desease". it was a shock for me, but kept silent. i started to link everyting
in my head, because lately he was weird with me and he is far from me mentaly and physically. and not pampering me now smiling even.
i have tried to ask him what is wrong with him, without mentioning that i knew about the STD seach on the net. but he ignored nervousely that he doenst have
any problems neither at work nor with his family or even with his health. and he said that there is nothing wrong with him. but his eyes were sad and bored, and he never LOOKED at me while talking. he's always neutral with some depression which is affecting my love life.
i might be wrong hopefully for accusing him that he is a cheater, but i think that he has had an affair with some stranger and he is afraid to tell me that.
thats why he is hiding his sadness and away from me, only sitting silently next to me watching movies.
Please can u tell me how to deal with this situation? and how to let him admit if he has the STD from an outside affair or maybe from me after the medical abortion (cytotec), BUT i never felt any infection since then. im clean! i hope that HE is not
infected with the STD. but i saw his searches on the net, and felt it is connected to his depression and not sleeping with me and even not hugging me.
please i need help
P.S: my man has a weird character since ever, he neer speaks out anything until the problem is solved and he's a smart fox, makes the one infront of him beleives his lies. and he can never be WRONG!
thx

Answer
Why don't you just go get tested to see if you have a STD. If you have one then you know you caught it from him. You said that the two of you have had sex twice since the abortion, so if he had it at the time, then he has passed it on to you. If you have it and he's the only man you've been with lately then you know you got it from him. That's all the proof you need to confront him on the matter. He can't deny giving you the STD as he's the only man you've been with, meaning you got him from him.

It's simple, if you have it, then he has it.