Expert: Don - 1/21/2008

Question
hi,

seriously dating a guy for two months. i send him loving messages by sms everyday. he's not the affectionate kind (or so i thought)so when he sends me affectionate messages (which is rare)i save them and treat them special. discovered an sms conversation in his cellphone one time with an ex planning a sexual hookup. that didn't bother me as much as the sms he sent him. it's exactly the same as the one he sent me. here i thought these messages were special (and only for me). i guess they were not. what's worse, when confronted, he said those messages didn't mean anything. you can't imagine how much that hurt. now i can't bring myself to send him sweet messages the way i used to. the sleeping with other guys i can handle (i did it, too) but finding out what i thought was special wasn't at all is bothering me to no end.

should i really be this troubled?

Answer
If he hurt your feelings, then you have every right to be troubled by it. First off it the fact that he is cheating on you should be a big deal and the fact that he just sends your random SMS instead of personalized ones should definitely make you upset.

You should be careful to this guy's actions and watch out for what he does.