Expert: Don - 1/20/2008

Question
i want to start a relationship with someone else that i met at work,he knows about my current relationship and is find with it.I live with my boyfriend and his mother but i talk to my friend every night in my room for hours on the internet. I am really attracted emotionally to the other person and he makes me feel so good about myself we both are really falling for each other but i am still in love with my boyfriend and i don't want to lose him. my friend goes to college in goes to college in Rochester and he wants me to come up on some weekends to spend time with him and i really really want to when he's in town he wants to spend time with me and go places but i think that we should go for a quick bite to eat and then hang out at his house because i don't want this side affair to be exposed but i really want them both what do  i do?-confused

Answer
You need to make a choice, you'll never be able to get away with dating both of these men over a long period of time.

What you need to do is make a list of what you like about both of the two of them. And whomever has the higher number of good things for you, you should try to start a relationship with that man. You'll never be able to cheat on your boyfriend with the other guy, especially if you're living with your boyfriend.

Pick one guy and go with him, you won't be able to get away with seeing them both.