Expert: Don - 11/16/2008

Question
I'm a 22 year old woman and I am an andrologist. I've been dating my current boyfriend for about a year now and we have a very healthy relationship. However, I am worried about if something I enjoy might be classified as cheating... At my job, I get to look at, touch, and smell many different dicks and I love it! I became an andrologist because I've always been obsessed with dicks and I knew that I'd love my job but no one knows this except me. I just love the smell of dick and it really turns me on when I get to look at and touch and smell men's dicks at work. I love to smell my boyfriend's dick too but just because I am with him doesn't mean that all of a sudden, I'm not straight anymore... I'm still sexually attracted to all men and I will continue to be. However, you should know that I do not perform any type of malpractice at work. I have never given any of the men that I've examined a handjob and or a blowjob and I keep it completely professional. But I do get sexual pleasure from doing my job and I don't want to tell this to my boyfriend because he may think that it's cheating and break up with me. So, am I cheater? Because if I am, then I'll be cheating on every man that I date! I just can't pretend that I don't get sexually satisfied from examining men's dicks when I do!

Answer
As long as you don't cross the line and become unprofessional with your patients then you are not cheating. Just being sexually aroused by someone else doesn't make you a cheater because if it did everyone would be one because people will always be sexual aroused by other people even if they aren't your partner. So what you are doing is fine, you're just doing your job and if you get extra pleasure from it, that is fine because it's just natural.