Expert: Don - 11/15/2008

Question
My husband and I had a long distance relationship before
getting married. He always insisted on trust and how he
wouldn't tolerate my cheating on him,only it turns out he
cheated on me with his ex while we were on different
continents. What is the most disturbing, he will not or
cannot stop lying about it even though I made it clear to
him I know everything (I read all of his e-mails). That
kills me because i feel that was the last chance for
regaining trust hence our marriage (he does not want a
divorce and claims he loves me). What do I do? My heart is
broken and my ego crushed. Do I cheat back on him i.e. get
even and than figure out what next? Oh, btw he got
registered on various adult meeting sites while we were
apart. Thanks!

Answer
Cheating on him isn't going solve any problems and more than likely in will make you feel worse not better. It appears that you don't trust him and he is proven liar and a cheat, you'd do better to get out this marriage instead of trying to cheat on him. Because if you take him back he will continue to cheat because he'll think he can get away with it anytime he wants.